Name changed. I'm living in the aftermath of H's affair. Things are going very well between us and we are both feeling very positive. OW is still trying to call him on a daily basis. He's told her not to and is now refusing her calls. He's changed his mobile number twice but she has got it from colleagues. He can't not give the number to colleagues because they need to get in touch with him.
I don't know what he should do for the best. I know it's his mess and he should clean it up but I am now very worried about him. I'm 100% sure he has finished it with her. I have the impression that OW is trying to destabilise our relationship by calling all the time but it is having the opposite effect.
I don't want his career to be jeopardised by this. His chances of finding another job at the moment are virtually zero. The area he works in is quite small and close knit so if he moved to another company he would still have to have contact with the department he currently works in.
He's keeping a note of the dates and times she calls. It's affecting his work. I'm worried she will go to HR and make allegations against him when in fact she is the one harassing him. On a practical level what should he do now? What will happen if he tells HR about the affair? There have been a few odd incidents recently that have made me feel stalked. What can he/we do? He has already tried obvious tactics like asking her to stop.
I'm looking for practical advice here, not to hear how awful my husband is. I'm dealing with the situation between him and me, but the worry about the work situation is giving us both panic attacks.
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Another persistent OW at work
Hadenoughnow · 07/07/2009 17:06
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