To cut an extremely long story short me and husband have been together almost 7 yrs and married just over 1 of them. he is 26 i am 24 and we have 2 young boys together.
Right background sorted, pretty much since we started going out I have always had reason to distrust him and usually when the computer was around. I was always finding pictures of girls on the computer and he was secretive with his phone.
Well once he admitted to me he liked to flirt with girls on the computer cos it was a release for him. I told him I was not happy with this and he promised he would stop.
Anyway at the beginning of this yr my husband decided he would like to go swinging and i couldnt comprehend it. On a works night out I was really drunk and ended up kissing a male colleague and we continued to flirt and text each other. I put this down to feeling unloved and unappreciated.
My husband found out and kicked me out which i was fine with because as far as i was concerned i was no longer 'in love' with him. He acted like a lost puppy and asked me to come back so i did and we got things back on track. he made me feel really guilty all the time but i deserved it.
3 weeks ago I was checking the computer and found out he had created about 40 email addresses and was able to access the profiles of some of his msn contacts. I added them and spoke to one who told me she met my husband and slept with him but he had said he was single. I told him i knew what he's done and he asked what and eventually confessed to meeting a girl off the internet when he told me he had a job interview. I realised this was a different girl. he then broke down and confessed he had a girl back to our house but they didnt sleep together did all but (because they had no condoms) this was a girl he worked with and decided to invite round while i was at a concert with my sister. he confessed that he slept with a girl in march and met another girl 3 days after our first wedding anniversary. i was so hurt i wont go into how i felt but i tried to get over it. we decided to put a password on comp but then he thought i was treating him like a baby so i took it off. i went to see take that last week and when i returned checked comp and found he had a girl blocked on msn and facebook so i contacted her and found out this girl was the one he met just for a kiss but they had actually slept together too. i told him i knew and he cried and said he didnt want to lose me etcetc. i now find out he has met a girl on his lunch break in work but they didnt even kiss.
he says its an addiction so he just wont go on internet anymore and im trying my best to forget but after all this hurt i dont know if i can??
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Will I ever Forgive and/or Forget??
jenny85uk · 30/06/2009 09:05
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