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Assaulted by ex p yesterday.

(13 Posts)
Ryn Sat 27-Jun-09 12:15:31

Well, I have now been kicked in the stomach and leg (33 weeks pg to new DP) while I was holding my DD1. My 83 year old granny was also assaulted by him!

Supervising a visit and he started. I was a slag and a bitch and my granny had to piss off. All infront of DD. Told hm to go away! He was waiting in car park for us!

Grabbed hold of DD arm (she is 2 and a half) i managed to free her, my granny told him to go away so he threw a full bunch of bananas at her (dont ask) then came up to me and kicked me DP furious at him for hurting us. EXP been charged with common assault.

Hopefully, the current court case where he is after unsupervsed access with now go in my favour and my dd1 will be protected! He is an animal!

And to think he is already under a court order not to threaten me. See that worked wonders!!!!hmm

Just praying he doesnt try to snatch her. He has threatened it, as he has ' nothing to live for' his words!

Jazzicatz Sat 27-Jun-09 12:16:40

OMG Are you all okay?

Ryn Sat 27-Jun-09 12:45:23

yeah. i am bruised and sore but ok. DD1 keeps telling me that daddy kicked me but doesnt seem too traumatized. Granny seems fine. Just hope this is the beginning of the end. He always gets way with it but this time has been charged. He is an animal! x

booyhoo Sat 27-Jun-09 13:23:08

make sure he gets no unsupervised access to your daughter ever, and i have to say, if it was me, he just wouldnt have any access after putting her through that. hes got serious issues if he thinks thats ok.

Greensleeves Sat 27-Jun-09 13:25:22

Have you seen a doctor about your injury, and have you got pics of the bruising?

So sorry this has happened to you, how awful sad

Greensleeves Sat 27-Jun-09 13:25:55

Oh, he's been charged, sorry blush

He won't get unsupervised access after this.

Ryn Sat 27-Jun-09 13:27:40

I have now refused all access! In the throws of court case anyway, its not the first time but he always plays the victim and cries etc and seems to work but not this time thank christ!

he has made my life hell for so long. i have never denied 'supervised' access as I believe every child has a right to know their father but not after this!!!

My fear is what he would do to her if he was in one of these moods and I have a duty to protect her!

He should be locked up! It has been years of abuse and I am not having her watch it!

junglist1 Sat 27-Jun-09 21:32:04

You have the high ground here in every way. Now you can sit back and watch the bastard sink himself. He's not a real man.

Ryn Tue 30-Jun-09 08:57:05

well, cafcass have agreed that all access should be suspended for the foreseeable! thank god! My DD has been acting strangely over the weekend and has kept mentioning hat daddy hurt her arm and kicked mammy in the tummy!

just not sure of the best way of handling this..... have rang docs for advice. do i just be honest and keep saying, "thats right he is naughty" or move on the conversation????

cestlavielife Tue 30-Jun-09 10:30:49

i replied on lone parents thread too...let her talk, keep reiterating it was not OK what he did, that you were scared too andthat you will make sure she is not alone with him in future.

that we can all get angry but it is not ok to hit out at anyone when you angry.

good for cafcass. any supervised in future should not be supervised by you but by profressionals eg contact centre.

you could ask GP to refer to family therapists/child psychologist if you think might be needed.

i think there are times when the right to know the father has to be tempered with whether it is in child's best interests - if he is violent etc. being the dad/mum does not in itself prevent harm being done, we all know that...it is not always in best interest for a child to be around a dangerous parent.

sure she should know who her father is - and encourage letterbox contact if you like - but at this point what possible benefit does she get from being around him?

he has lost his rights by behaving like this. he was warned and told.

when she is older she can make her mind up whether to know him or not.

Ryn Tue 30-Jun-09 12:02:55

thanks for this!!! honestly i am a mess! i just dont know how much more fight i have left in me. its horrendous! i have lost everything financially too! which i know is irrelevant but i have had to pay 20k just to keep my dd safe!

i am stressed to hell and now worried about impact on this pregnancy. How can one person ruin your life like this. he was unsafe with her and violent which is why we split on first place.

i now face a court hearing in immediate future and am due to have a c section in 5 weeks!

Ryn Wed 01-Jul-09 13:42:50

car now vandalized with '1/2' keyed into the side?!?!?!?!?

BrokkenHarted Wed 01-Jul-09 16:08:58

oh dear! what is that supposed to mean?

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