We've been together for ten years and have 2 DC, one aged 6 and the other 9 months, my partner was unfaithful to me 7 years ago. He never admitted to it but there was loads of evidence. At the same time I found out I was pregnant, so it sort of got brushed under the carpet. He promised me he'd never have contact with the OW again.
Fast forward 7 years, he had a night out with his workmates recently, I know the OW was in the pub at the same time as him but thought I could trust him to keep his promise. I was checking my emails a few days ago and found she'd sent him a facebook request saying "I dare you to add me!!!!!!" I immediately called and told him, he said we should delete and ignore it but I was suspicious, after all why would she do this after all these years?
So that evening I went into his facebook account and replied to her as if it was from him, telling her to back off as it caused so much hurt the last time. She immediately replied saying that I would be even more upset if I knew what he'd been saying to her in the pub two weeks ago!
This is the latest in a long line of infidelities, my self esteem is at rock bottom, I've put on a fair bit of weight and generally feel really shit about myself. He knows this but has recently discovered facebook, I also recently found out he had been having 2 hour long chats with an old female friend from school, who just happens to have a daughter in the same class at school as ours. I challenged him about this and he says I'm being paranoid.
I checked his facebook account and saw he sent a message to another girl recently asking her if he could take her out for a drink sometime. Of course he said it's all innocent and I'm being paranoid but even if it was innocent I think it's disrespectful to me.
So what do you all think? I can't stand being made to feel like I'm going mad but the alternative is that I will have to bring up our children by myself which would break their hearts. I'll probably lose our home as well which means my daughter will have to change schools and It's likely I'll have to quit my job as well. It's all such a mess.
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So should I get rid of him?
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jennieflower · 27/06/2009 11:27
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