I love DH very much, we have been together for seven years and when it is good it is great and he is my best friend.
When he is moody though I hate it. He gets in a mood for whatever reason and takes it out on me. He will tell me I am useless or tell me to shut up or swear at me. Sometimes I try to just walk away from him when he is like that as I know there is not much to be done and sometimes he will prevent me from walking away and will hold me so I have to listen to whatever he is saying. He does it in a half jokey way but at the same time nothing is funny about it and I hate it when I tell him to stop doing something or to let me go and he he ignores me.
He makes jokes about wanting to punch my face in and sometimes they just don't sound like jokes. I am not good with anger in general or with any kind of conflict so I am probably over sensitive to things too which won't help and I am certainly not easy in many ways as I struggle with anxiety and can be difficult but I don't want my son to see this kind of behaviour.
I know I have problems myself - I have bad self esteem, have struggled with anxiety for years and have had depression in the past. I also have eating issues and had a very bad spell recently though I am past the worst of that now. I realise this must be a strain but at the same time I am just tired of his moods. I have spoken to him about how it makes me feel and I have tried putting my foot down and telling him not to speak to me like that but it seems to make things worse.
I have rambled too much already so I will leave it at that for now.
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chocolatestar · 24/06/2009 22:47
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