Me and DH have been married for 4yrs and up until around 14mths ago DH used to go out maybe every other weekend sometimes more,
I never had a problem with him going out but I did have a problem with the condition he used to come home in and we used to have blazing rows about it (DH was always very argumentative and verbally abusive when drunk).
Anyway after the birth of DS 3.5yrs his drinking seemed to get worse, we were running a failing business at the time and I was completely knackered with a newborn and a business to run and not much help from DH. Things were pretty bad and I think DH was drinking because of the stress.
We managed to get out of the business when DS was 7mths old and DH's drinking calmed down but when he did go out he was still volatile and nasty with his words, He just seemed so angry about everything, I feel I must mention that he has never laid a finger on me and I'm sure I know him well enough to say that he never would.
Things reached breaking point after the birth of DD 15mths, DH was still going out and I felt an awful lot of resentment towards him, after all my life had changed completely I was a responsible mother who always put our DC first and I desperately loved DH and wanted everything to be ok between us, he on the other hand seemed to be having his cake and eating it, and spending money that we didn't have to boot.
I had told him many times that if he didn't change his ways I would leave and take the DC with me but it was like I was banging my head up against a brick wall.
Anyway he went out for a whole day drinking session when DD was around 4wks old and turned up early the next morning steaming drunk and and tried to get into bed were I was sleeping with DS and I told him to sleep on the sofa, He started his usual nastiness and I screamed at him to leave and tried to push him out the front door, by this point as you can imagine I'd had enough, He wouldn't go and I was desperate and didn't want this for myself or our DC so I called the police. They came and asked if I wanted him arresting, I told them I didn't I just wanted him out of the house so they took him to his mums.
Well that was all 14mths ago and DH has only had the occasional after work pint with work mates. Since the morning I called the police till now DH has been fantastic in every way, Loving caring sensitive husband and playful responsible father and I can honestly say that the man I fell in love with is back, But tongiht he has gone out drinking with his mates from work and I feel sick with worry and dread that the other man that I hate will come walking through the door.
He assured me when he walked out the door that this is a one off and he won't be late home. He also apologised again for his awful past behaviour. I know I should trust him but i'm so scared that our happy little bubble will burst.
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DH has gone out drinking for the first time in over a year and i'm worried!
Dragonfly74 · 24/06/2009 20:37
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