Hi All,
I don't know if anyone read any of my other conversations I have started but basically my husband left us 3 weeks ago after I found he was advertising for nsa daytime sex on the internet. Well, since then we have seen him and all got on OK, I'm not so angry anymore, I believe that some of it was due to my fault to the extent that the relationship obviously had problems, I am not excuses his behaviour.
Its just we have both agreed to wear our wedding rings again, i have said that I forgive him and that he can come home and we can try and work on our relationship with counselling, etc, won't be easy but I would give it a go. But, he's the one acting as if he is the hard done by one and I don't get it He won't come home and he complanes that my parents haven't checked if he's OK as he has to live with his sister and her family, his sister or any of his family haven't phoned, texted or anything to ask whether me and the kids are OK, but he wants my mum and dad to check on him because he thinks he has it worst. It wasn't me that was unfaithful. I just don't get it. I think I am seriously missing something. I meet him with the kids for lunch today he was saying that he was looking at a bedsit coz he can't stay with his sister anymore and I said he can come home and he just glared at me and as he was leaving I told him he didn't have to punish himself anymore its OK and again he gave me a look that said that it was all my fault not his.
When I first found out, yes, I went mad and texted and phoned abuse at him, well I kind of think I was justified I had just found out my husband who I thought was going to be with me for life had been cheating on me, but i calmed down very quickly I think and now I'm OK however, that's what he's throwing back in my face, that I dared get angry with him, I just don't understand!
Any insight gratefully recieved.
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I just don't get him!
emmawil37 · 24/06/2009 14:03
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