I honesty believe we have a pretty good marriage, ups and downs as always, but I really love him and believe he loves me too. He treats me well, is a fab father and a good son-in-law to my parents too. We are great friends and enjoy spending time together, but in recent years have had precious little sex, despite regular conversations and promises that it will be better from now on etc. I would like more, he hasn't.
We had a big tearful talk last night and it turns out he's having real problems liking himself and therefore finds it hard to believe I would want him, although he says he wants to.
5 years ago (after many years of very strained relationships) we became estranged from his parents. I found it very sad, but DH was adamant we were better off without them and I have to admit life has become much easier. But, as DH gets older he does look more and more like his father and he says it distresses him every time he looks in the mirror and sees his father (who he says he hates) looking back at him.
He's not like his father at all, he's a loving supportive husband, whereas his father controls MIL by telling her she's not capable of anything and our DCs know there DH loves them unconditionally, whereas PIL believe their children "owe" them for all the sacrifices they made to bring them up etc...
DH does look like his Dad, but I love him and I was him to love himself and to want to (or feel able to) make love to me. What can I do to help him?
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How can I help poor DH?
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sameagain · 20/06/2009 18:18
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