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dh just called me a DRAGON!!

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Mosschops30 Thu 12-May-05 22:20:15

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Frizbe Thu 12-May-05 22:27:42

{{ HUGS }} to you mosschops30, men can be a tad insensitive at times.....I think you guys need to try and talk soon tho, weekends coming up, so maybe a good time?
I guess ds is rather young still if I remember rightly, and its hard enough work juggling one child, never mind one and a baby right! (just if your at work all day you don't always see that bit...)
My guess is dh is very tired, as are you...sleep on it, try and be nice in the morning and when he gets home tomorrow ask to sit down for a chat once the kids are in bed and tell him how you feel....
Re baby weight, don't worry too much, my main weight took 9mths to drop off, (that old saying eh!) and then I managed another half a stone in the last half a year, and still could do with loosing another half, so your not alone on that one but don't push yourself too hard.

Mosschops30 Thu 12-May-05 22:31:45

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Frizbe Thu 12-May-05 22:58:31

Hmmmmm, do you think its cause he's feeling pressured too, what with work n extra kids n all that, blokes aren't always good at talking about it are they? would it be worth trying to write it down for him?

Mosschops30 Thu 12-May-05 23:00:19

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Evesmama Thu 12-May-05 23:01:56

dp told me tonight that everything i touch go tits up...as the computer was going slow and needed clearing!!!a slightly over dramatic comment!

Mosschops30 Thu 12-May-05 23:07:04

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Evesmama Fri 13-May-05 21:19:09

i think they must have went to the same charm school by the sounds

munz Fri 13-May-05 21:28:05

don't worry it's not just u, DH keeps calling my a 'witch' at the minute regardless of what I do, it seems to be his word of the week. so if I don't turn over the TV/ make a cuppa he say's i'm a witch - I mean how bloody rude can men be?

Evesmama Fri 13-May-05 21:29:18

dp has got something on his mind at moment, he always go's into nasty/defensive mode when he does...just wait till he finally tells me..in meantime ill continue laughing at him which irritates him

jessicasdaddy Fri 13-May-05 22:04:15

does he do anything around the house to help? or help with baby?

it may just be he is just as tired.

i know jm and i have argueed before because we were both tired her from looking after dd and me because of work and doing housey things and looking after dd 2!

but then we would wake up in the morning and all would be fine.

he could also just have things on his mind.

being a man i no, we dont like talking about our problems it dents our ego, if we cant sort it then no one can.!!1

Evesmama Fri 13-May-05 22:09:21

i do 'everything' for dd, he does some of the fun stuff like playing with her and she alsways runs to him when i say noi know this is just a 'phase', well with dd anyway...dont know about dp, he seems to have so little respect for me at the moment, i dont know why i bother!

jessicasdaddy Fri 13-May-05 22:22:01

omg- its like talking to my wife a while ago, she felt the same way as you do now.

looking back on it i did treat her like dirt, not intentionally i might add.

it took her telling me that she had had enough and was leaving me ( she said this as she was literally leaving), before i got knocked back to reality, and realized the errors of my ways.

we are so happy now, and respect each other, and talk about how we are feeling on a daily basis.

Evesmama Fri 13-May-05 22:30:11

hmm, i think a lot of my trouble is i spend most of my evening here, who am i kidding..all of my evening here...so we 'dont talk'
been together 10 years and have always been argumenative, but now im more laid back and he seems like a tightly wound spring

p.s sorry for jumping in on this thread

munz Sat 14-May-05 10:01:01

EM - he he I know my DH get's miffed if i'm on here all night, i'm activly trying to get him to come on but he won't hear of it, and instead says no u type it, althou he does look at some of the threads.

JD - how's JM doing, and u've found out the DB is def a girl? good to talk to u finaly after talkin to JM for so long

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assumedname Sat 14-May-05 10:53:55

Mosschops30, my dh and I went through a phase of this after dd1 was born.

I think it takes much longer for a man to realise all the things that have to be done when you have a baby. Things are totally different to when you were just a couple and women adjust to the situation more quickly.

Mosschops30 Sat 14-May-05 17:05:32

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