Can't be bothered to namechange, so here goes.
Dd's dad and I were together for a long time before I got pregnant with dd. I found out I was pg at uni, he wanted nothing to do with it. He was there for the birth and has shown intermittent interest every since. At her party two years ago, he showed up with his new girlfriend who then proceeded to whip out the video camera and generally go a bit ott. It resulted in a massive arguement as my grandad had a word with her that ended up with him asking her if she was even invited Cue massive family bust up. I am on brilliant terms with his grandparents, who are paying for the party. I spoke to him this morning as he had told me that he wants to come to her party. I have thought about it and said no. He can't talk to me on the phone without shouting and I don't see why there should be that atmosphere at a children's party. Most of the parents there will remember the fight two years ago . I have said he is welcome to come anyway and see her after the party. It is at an outdoor play place so it will make no odds to her if he is there or not. The next day he wants to take her for a few hours before he heads home, which is about 3 hours away.
He makes very little effort to see dd throughout the year- Christmas and birthdays always cause the same arguements as he expects me to just hand her over having made no effort to even call for the rest of the year I'm now torn. His grandparents are paying for the party, and he mentioned this this morning in between shouting at me. I said it made no difference, if push came to shove I'll pay for the bloody thing myself. Am I being unreasonable? I don't see why he should be able to just swan in and make me on edge for the whole party. He doesn't know hte children or the parents who have been invited, and I just find it a little odd that he can't just see her the next day. I don't like being called unreasonable by him but I honestly can't tell if I am being?? What shall I do?
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littlelamb · 19/06/2009 16:41
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