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BarbieLovesKen Thu 18-Jun-09 12:38:49

I've been married 10 months now, I've been with my now dh for years.

We have a beautiful little girl who will be 4 later this year.

We built a house that we poured our heart and souls into and moved in to it two weeks before our wedding last year.

I am 9 weeks pregnant with our second baby. I had a misscarraige in February of this year.

My husband has always had his ways but comes across as extremely content, happy and satisfied with his lot in life.

Although I am aware how ridiculously naive and stupid I sound, I have laughed at women who have said what I am about to but I honestly, honestly never, ever thought he would have this in him..he had his faults but I always thought this was something I never had to worry about.

He went out Thursday night with his friends to celebrate an achievement in work. Apparantly on the way home his friend bumped into a girl he knows on the street and invited her up to his (and his girlfriends)house for karoke etc... (3am), the 4 of them went and spent hours having great fun singing etc.. the couple went to bed, my dh rang a taxi and she rang a taxi and while waiting they ended up kissing.

The b*stard then proceeded to text her all day Friday, all day Saturday, all day Sunday... he went out again Sunday night and she "happened" to be in the pub he went to so the two of them, with two of his friends had a lovely night out together, went dancing, he walked her up to her house "somewhere quite" where they kissed, he felt her fanjo, chest and she had a good feel back too.

Apparantly he didnt actually stick anything inside her as she was having her period.

(I really apologise for being so so crude)

He continued to text her Monday.. complete filth between both of them, this is how I found out, I seen some of the messages and they were all about her p*ssy and his c*ck. He had this conversation while I sat on the couch beside him and our daughter played on the floor.

I cannot put in to words how devastated I am. If not for my daughter I just wish I was dead.

FabBakerGirlIsBack Thu 18-Jun-09 12:40:47

What do you want to do now?

Do you want to stay with him or not?

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 18-Jun-09 12:44:44

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howtotellmum Thu 18-Jun-09 12:45:09

How do you know he did all those things when he walked her home?

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howtotellmum Thu 18-Jun-09 12:48:29

so he was texting- your fanjo felt nice and so did your tits when I walked you to a quiet place outside your house, but I couldn't have sex because you had a period- and he left all of this on his phone hmm

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 18-Jun-09 12:51:14

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DogMa Thu 18-Jun-09 12:53:44

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LovingtheSilverFox Thu 18-Jun-09 12:58:51

So, if I get this right, everything was fine, and then "suddenly" he gets completely caught up with this other woman? Things couldn't have been right. Presumably you were looking through his phone, which means you had to have been sus, and if not, why look throught his phone?

Rindercella Thu 18-Jun-09 13:00:03

Howtotell & Dogma, how about giving Barbie the right to reply before throwing about your hmms and amateur sleuthing. FFS angry

Barbie, please do not be put off from posting on here. There are many people who can help you.

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shadowofacow Thu 18-Jun-09 13:02:27

sorry you are going through this barbie.

does he know yet that you know?

howtotellmum Thu 18-Jun-09 13:02:27

not disbelieving, just trying to understand the nature of the events- she would have to have read a lot of very detailed texts, such as who would mention in a text that they walked her home to her house which was in a quiet place and that he had a) written and b) been stupid enough to leave on his phone and that c) she had access to.

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DogMa Thu 18-Jun-09 13:03:25

I'm not amature sleuthing - I'm asking a question. Maybe that pregnancy had an extremely sad ending and the marriage has been badly affected by that. Don't FFS my posts - what are you, the Head Girl?

Lizzylou Thu 18-Jun-09 13:05:51

Poor you, have you confronted him?
How have things been between the two of you recently?

I am so sorry, what an awful way to find out as well.

LovingtheSilverFox Thu 18-Jun-09 13:06:47

I'm going to watch this.....Barbie has posted any replies not a troll spotter, but there are some valid questions raised.......

If this is genuine Barbie, please post so we can help.

LovingtheSilverFox Thu 18-Jun-09 13:07:46

Sorry - Barbie hasn't posted any replies yet.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight Thu 18-Jun-09 13:09:21

Dogma - that was a TTC thread you found - period due in sept, not baby. I assume barbie got PG at some point after that and lost the baby in february as she stated.
Maybe someone else told her what happened - maybe DH did - maybe there was lots of info in both sent and received texts - you don't know at this point, so let's wait to see what she says before deciding?

Jumente Thu 18-Jun-09 13:10:13

Guys I don't think Barbie is a troll.

I feel there must be an explanation for how she found out these details - I'm interested to know, it sounds like a big shock and i am sorry to hear about it.

donnie Thu 18-Jun-09 13:11:53

trip trap city guys - face it.

RumourOfAHurricane Thu 18-Jun-09 13:12:18

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