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If you come home to a hot dinner most nights...

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PrettyCandles · 17/06/2009 23:54

Yeah, I know it's a long shot, but if any of you do...

I try to have a proper meal waiting for dh when he comes home. If the dcs aren't too tired, and he's not too late, we all eat together, otherwise he will eat his meal before he goes up to bath the dcs. I may eat with him, or I may have eaten with the dcs. Occasionally he has to wait, and then we try to have a nice adults dinner together after the hordes are in bed.

What I want to know is what does it feel like not to have any input into what you're eating; not necessarily to know whether there will be a meal waiting, whether it will be roast-and-veg-and-pudding, or beans-on-toast; not necessarily to know whether supper wil be ready or you'll have to wait 2-3h to eat? Dh is a typical male ie uncommunicative! Besides, I think he'll think I'm asking "Does my bum look big in this?" questions.

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cat64 · 17/06/2009 23:58

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muffle · 18/06/2009 00:07

DP gets this as he gets back from work at around 7, so if we want to eat with DS before bedtime, I do it - as I'm self-employed and part-time it makes sense. But sometimes I do wish it was me getting cooked for.

I do sometimes think "oh I can't be arsed so it's beans on toast tonight" but nonetheless DP always seems to like it. He says it's great to come in when it's all ready and have a surprise every night.

Just as well really because if he complained I think I could possibly quite easily get annoyed.

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Tortington · 18/06/2009 00:18

dh likes to eat immediatley he ges in from work

and i am usually home first so i bung it in the oven

i heard a mantra yesterday that i thought bloody good - don't take longer to prepare anything than it takes to eat it.

i like a set time - i like to know what is expected of me.

dh knows if i have had a long day too - that he will hae to pitch in.

but i like to eat 6.30 - 7pm. if he's later than that - he eats on his own - and gets whatever is cold and or singed.

dh knows if he complains he can kiss my hairy spotty arse.

dh knows that first one home cooks - if he is first one home - he cooks

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PrettyCandles · 18/06/2009 00:20

Where's that picutre of Cod's bum when you need it?!

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JoyS · 18/06/2009 19:03

My DH was raised by wolves so he considers a hot-meal-on-the-table to be a lucky treat rather than a god-given right. I manage it several times a week, either I cook something I know we'll all like or I ask him ahead of time, does x meal sound good to you?

It's hard to go to work all day and then come home and have to think about dinner as well as kids bedtime/tidying/bill paying etc. I would certainly appreciate it if someone took the responsibility for it off my hands!

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PrincessLayer · 18/06/2009 19:08

I'm always asking my DH if he has any preference/idea for an evening meal.
He always says he's not bothered, and whatever I stick in front of him he tends to enjoy. He's happy if it's a big roast dinner or a fish finger butty.

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buttercreamfrosting · 18/06/2009 19:44

DH does most of the cooking during the week and while I wouldn't say I have no input, I often come home to a suprise. I'm always happy with whatever I'm given - DH is a great cook! (and yes, it's sometimes egg and beans and I'm happy with that too!)

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triggerhappybaby · 18/06/2009 20:57

DP has just said eh doesn't give a flying fart as long as he doesn't have to cook it. And TBH if he did he'd be wearing it...

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FabBakerGirlIsBack · 18/06/2009 21:00

DH and I eat together after the kids are in bed and I cook most of the time. DH will always do dinner if I can't be bothered and has prepared yummy salads for us the last two nights. He has input in what we eat sometimes.

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BodenGroupie · 18/06/2009 21:44

Custardo, I really think it's time you had your own TV prog in the style of Trinny & Susannah/Aggie and thingy/Alvin Hall - you always sound so sensible and sorted.

I'd be happy to volunteer for the first programme

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saggyhairyarse · 18/06/2009 21:50

My husband is a very fussy eater and turns his nose up at most of my offerings so he comes home to nothing and can sort himself out.

I cook and eat with the kids, often there are leftovers so he could heat them up or fix himself something.

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K999 · 18/06/2009 21:51

DP cooks every night. We do a meal planner at the weekend and then DP does the supermarket run. Quite organised but it saves him havin to decide every day and it has cut down our food bill and the amount of food that we throw out.....I tidy the kitchen afterwards and organise the kids stuff....

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busybeingmum · 18/06/2009 22:33

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shhhh · 18/06/2009 23:07

I cook for dh each night he's home..he's away atm BUT when he's home I have a meal ready..

Somtimes if dh is not busy aor home early then he will make us and the dk's dinner and we eat together or if we want some us time we will see to the dk's and cook for us later..

tbh, its noone job in our home..just done by whoever is available. Its usually me who decides whats for dinner and buys the stuff.

I would never eat and leave dh out (if he;s home late etc..would alwasy have him something ready if he wants something). I think we have the balance right (in an sahm btw), my mum is old fashioned and believes its her role to have dinner ready for my dad, he cooks occasinally BUT even now he's retired he will sit on his bum and let mum do it all .

BTW, I'm shocked at people that either don't cook for whoever is latest home or who doesn't cook for their dh at all (if a sahm..) I know friends who don't work, their dh come home to ..... nothing . IMO its the least you can do.

Dh's cousin made me laugh a while back, their agreement was that whoever was home 1st cooked...his dw commented "its always me" to which he comfessed "Yes I know, I sit around the corner if i'm home before you and wait till you get home..give you enough time to get started then I make my appearance "

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