It's no good, I need to rant and then I'll be ok. I apologise upfront!!
I'm working full time, have DS (3yrs) who is a nursery for 3 full days a week. DS is going through a phase where he's finding it hard to go to nursery, think new children, squabbles over ride-on toys etc haven't helped, but all normal. I've been messed around withmy shifts a lot recently, which has left me going early, getting back late and he's told me he misses me. (Place GUILT stamp of forehead at this point). DH get tired, fractious and generally in a tizzy when he looks after him after 24 hours. So I again place guilt stamp on forehead.
DS has just started waking up again off and on throughout the night, crying and quite distressed - he tells me it's because he dreams I'm leaving him. I give bundles of reassurance and try to spend as much time as possible with him when I'm off just doing normal family stuff together.
Well, I've just been trying to get DS to settle for the night - he's been at nursery all day. He is tired but couldn't settle. So eventually he has after 2 hours. I go downstairs and tell DH about the reason DS isn't settling (me being away - doesn't want to go to nursery). He said: are you going to listen to a 3 yr old? So I said, it wasn't about not listening, but something is evidently upsetting him. Whereupon he's gone off like a bottle of pop at me. I say nothing and get some milk for DS to try and settle him and he slams stuff down next to me and then has a go at me for 'even considering reducing hours'.... (he works part time and could work longer hours but chooses not to which can exasperate me).
I give up!!!
Am I the only one who can't say anything?! Grrrrr
Plus - told you I'd bore you, but I'm on a rant... It's a fairly significant birthday for me this year and he has arranged to have a kitchen fitted (which is very nice and I am lucky to be able to have a new kitchen) on the week leading up to and after my birthday. He's told me that there is no chance of doing anything as it will be all go then. He's arranged to go to france with his mates for the following weekend which also happens to be DS 4th birthday.
Ooo, I'm not a happy bunny.
Rant ends.
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I'm hopping mad. DH insensitivity just makes my blood boil and I can't say anything or he goes off the deep end. Ranting - I'm sorry.
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SwissCheese · 08/06/2009 21:47
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