when my daughter was 4 months old i attended baby massage where i started for form friendships with 2 mums. we all went to toddlers together once a week. at 6 months i had to return to work, my friends dont have to work and spend every day together and doing lots of lovely things but it never bothered me, they have both now has their 2nd child each. our 1st children are all now 2 years 7 months. and for the last 6 months i seemed to have spent a lot more time with them until the last month. i felt i had got 2 lovely friends, one more so that the other. but the children all played lovely together, we would all do lunch in turns on my days off etc. i went on holiday with one of them and our familys.
the last month has been awful. i invited them round for lunch and play afternoon, they stayed hour and half max and both made excuse to go. they dont invite us to anything anymore and none of them every phone anymore. they are stil arranging things together but i find it is bothering me now, i feel sorry for my daughter and feeling a bit lonely, i do have other friends but i did enjoy their company and so did my daughter. there had not been any arguments or bad words as far as i know, but its like they have just cut me and my family out of their lives.
i am 61/2 months pregnant and do have emotional days these are mainly when i am not at work as i seem to let them bother me thinking of the things we used to do together,the days at work i dont think about them. but it is getting me down. its been like this for 4 or so weeks now and i dont feel i can talk to them as they are so 'clicky'. i feel like three is a crowd.
it never bothered me before but since i have spent time with them it does bother me now.
they are continuing to do things every day and today they went shopping to the city together - no invite. i didn;t atttend the toddler group this week 1st time ever with out letting them know, not one of them called me or text to see if everything was ok or where we were. its really upsetting me.
I have other friends but i liked being with these 2.
is it me and my hornones or is it them?
my feels at present are to forget them and move on but the children are my dd friends to and i know she misses them.
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sd33 · 07/06/2009 21:14
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