I have a real problem with liars. I think if a person lies, you can never really trust them, no matter how small the lie.
Anyway I have been with my partner around a year and have recently moved in with him. He had lied about little stuff in the past. For instance he told me his daughter didn't know we were together when he knew damn well he'd told her. He told me he'd applied for a job when he hadn't etc.
But I let it go, deciding the lies were too small to bother about. But it's continued.
For instance a massive row erupted last weekend because he'd told his ex that she could take their daughter out on the saturday. He didn't tell the daughter this however so she made other plans. I asked him outright if he knew her mother had planned to take her out and he stuttered before saying "no,I didn't know" but I know full well he didn because I saw the text messages!
Another one is that we have his ex's old bookcase here and he is supposed to be getting rid of it. He told me originally that he'd put it in the paper for £50 ... it didn't sell so he put it down to £40 ... it still didn't sell. So he said he felt guilty lowering the price anymore as it was worth alot more than £50. My argument was that he was doing more than he should anyway just by selling the bloody thing and if she was that bothered, she'd get off her arse and sell it herself. He supposedly agreed and lowered the price down to £30.
Now, a solid pine, 6ft bookcase ... still not selling at £30?? seemed odd so I checked the advert and he hadn't lowered the price at all!! he just told me he had.
He's just lying about stupid stuff all the time ... for instance his daughter said last night:
"Dad, can I stay up late tonight? because I can't tomorow night and you know why ... "
So I'm a bit 'what's all this about?'
DP quickly agrees and changes the subject.
When she left the room I asked "why can't she stay up late tomorow?" and he replies "dunno"
So I said "well, she seemed to think you knew ... " and he got agitated and said "I have no idea what she's on about"
So I thought for a while and then said "is it because she watches big brother in her room?" and he said "no" (a rule was put in place to stop the kids watching it).
10 minutes later, DSD whispers to me "do you know where my remote control is? Big Brother starts soon ... " so he'd lied about that too!
Should I just let the small stuff go or is lying lying, no matter how small?
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MeMyselfandYou · 07/06/2009 01:27
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