Hello, this is my first post and I am hoping for some mumsnet wisdom...
I am 26, and been with my partner for over 3years. He is 30. We are in a long distance relationship. I love him deeply, and he often talks of the future (marriage, children etc). He is everything I want in a man, but there are some things that are just nagging me about the future.
I have had plenty of relationships in the past with different types of men , and work in a very male orientated job (military), so I know what men are like. Mostly I know that they are far from perfect, and there are a lot of men out there who are just awful, so I count myself lucky that I have found a good one.
BUT
How much have you compromised in your relationship? As in, have you settled for your current partner, despite their failings?
He isnt perfect, he can have tantrums like a toddler, he is crap with money, his driving is sometimes very dangerous, he doest tidy up after himself.... nothing too scary, but when we argue, we really argue (verbal only) !!! I have observed the way he is will his mother, who is very submissive. I am the opposite of this, so we clash and he gets very upset (as do I) and angry that I do not just nod and smile and agree with his point of view. I do worry that it is not healthy to be like this, but then I think that it is not that bad, and everyone argues don?t they?
SO
Is it normal to settle for what you've got if you think its not 100% perfect? Or is there someone out there who will be all I love about my current boyfriend but without his negative points? Or am I being too picking and need to understand that I can?t have everything and should just except him, warts and all??
PS I do get bored easily in life so I am worried it is just me being a stupid cow with unrealistic ideas !!
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Have you settled? for your current partner, despite their failings?
WouldntItBeNce · 05/06/2009 19:51
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