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Mum always tells me the horrific news stories ....

(13 Posts)
Disenchanted3 Fri 05-Jun-09 17:26:28

When I ask her not to!

I avoid newspapers, news and the likes because 'true horror' type articles affect me badly

I can't forget them easily, but my mum always tries to tell me them.

Today for instance she collected us from our holiday park which was so nice of her, but after hellos she jumps straight into an awful story of a local couple who had committed suicide because their 5 yr old had died of meningitis, theres a particularly grusome part to it which made me cry (i wont go into it)

I asked several times for her to 'stop'

I was really happy after hols & relaxed but straight away i felt sad, anxious (i cried) and also angry... why does she feel the need to do this???

jabberwocky Fri 05-Jun-09 17:29:32

My mother does this too! It drives me insane and I have to keep telling her I don't want to hear these things

southeastastra Fri 05-Jun-09 17:30:02

my mil does this, also turns up tv for particularly nasty news stories.

if you put your fingers in your ears and 'lalala' alot do you think she'll get the message?

fruitstick Fri 05-Jun-09 19:13:40

My sister does this. Also tells me about every sick child/cancer sufferer she encounters.

When I was pregnant her friend had a baby who was stillborn - she spared no details sad

TheArmadillo Fri 05-Jun-09 19:19:35

Have you told her bluntly 'why are you telling me this when I've asked you not to - are you deliberately trying to upset me?'. It makes it harder for them to carry on when you point out exactly what they are doing every time they start.

If they still won't stop then walk away or put phone down.

If it really upsets you and they know it and carry on doing it then that is deliberately trying to upset you. Make sure you point it out to them.

You shouldn't let her make you cry sad

Disenchanted3 Fri 05-Jun-09 19:23:55

Its not her really, its the stories. I have anxiety and I will worry about meningitis, car crash, abduction, whatever it is I read about to an unhealthy point.

I said about 3 times 'I don't want to know ... why have you told me this'

In fact she started with the suicide, then revealed the horrible, horrible part (at which i got veryyyy upset) and she said 'its because xyz....' and concluded the storiehmm

StirlingTheStrong Fri 05-Jun-09 19:44:32

I wonder if it a generation thing - My Mum loves doing this. She loves telling me gruesome news stories.

She phones once a week and always has a story of someone we know/knew that has something awful and she always has really awful details about the illness.

Maybe they love to shock people. It really is an awful habit.

nickytwotimes Fri 05-Jun-09 19:46:17

My MIL is awful for this.
She is getting worse now she is retired.
Fucking depressing!

lilacclaire Fri 05-Jun-09 20:01:20

My mum does this also, especially when I tell her not to. I'll switch over the news if something particularly horrible comes on, but my mum just insists on telling me things I find very disturbing.
Why on earth do the do it!

BEAUTlFUL Fri 05-Jun-09 21:58:07

What's the horrible, horrible part? I know that is massively inappropriate question, but what was it?

I suffer from anxiety like you do, but luckily my mum prefers to turn a blind eye to tragedy, etc. Do you think your anxiety comes from your mum raising you on a diet of disaster stories? Maybe? I'm worried I talk to DS1 too much about negative things.

Sorry you're upset.

2rebecca Fri 05-Jun-09 22:38:27

I agree with the Armadillo. I'd probably be fairly blunt and say something like "mum, please stop it now. I know you like this gruesome stuff but I don't and I've told you I don't, and it puts me off seeing you if everytime we meet you start on about the latest horror story. Discuss them with your friends but please not with me"
If she continues I'd just say "mum, if you're going to rubbish my views and opinions by ignoring me I'm going" and I would go. Why stay around to listen to it. Speak loudly, interupt her and leave if she keeps going on.
I'd be more concerned at my mum having so little interest in enjoying her time with me and deliberately enjoying winding me up, than the nonsense she's actually talking about.
It sounds like more power games.

knockedgymnast Sat 06-Jun-09 00:02:22

Do you think she gets some sort of kick from it?

SomeGuy Sat 06-Jun-09 03:14:12

this is why people buy the daily mail. they enjoy these stories.

I presume this is the one the OP referred to: death-sparked-familys-fatal-jump.html

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