this is a rant and prob wont make much sense cos im so upset.
A while ago my dp (or not at the mo) had been texting my friend messages that he shouldnt have been we spoke about it and we left it at that he promised not to do it anymore. Then yesterday something happened that brought it all back up which again we spoke about and delt with it. i then say a message on his phone last night that said something like he would leave her alone and that he accepted the baby which i dont really get but the point it he was asked to delete her number and that would be it.
then this morning i was checking the phone bill to see how much it was gonna be and i saw £55 to premium numbers which were sex lines. i dont know what to do. why is he trying to hurt me the calls were made when i was in hosp having our baby
Accepted the baby? What does that mean? And why is your friend having to ask him to delete her number?
As to 'why is he doing this to you?' I think this is a v good question. I think you need to talk to him, and ask him what he is playing at, and what things are important to you in your relationship. He sounds very immature. I have known of men who choose the moment their partner is having a baby to start acting out of character re things like sex lines etc ...talk to hi further? Calmly, if you can?
it was me that told him to delete her number as she was sending messages back which also hurt and yeah i know thats the kind of lines he was calling as i phoned 1 to see. he is now begging me not to leave and says hes been an arsehole i just dont know what to believe.
i just dont want him to think its all ok (we were talking about engagement rings this morning) and then it to happen again i dont want to put dd through what i went through when i was young. i have told him in the past if he cheated on me that would be it but this situation is a bit hazy as he hasnt slept with or kissed some1 else but i still feel totally let down and betrayed. hes taken the afternoon off work and is feeding dd at the mo as i think me being upset was getting passed on to her
With the sex lines I think you should tell him how you feel and hopefully he'll respect your wishes and stop.
I'm not sure what to say about the thing with your ex mate.
Did he think he might not be the dad?
Maybe something was going on with them and hes finished it, but you might never know?
Could you talk to this ex friend?
Sorry, I've got to go and bath a very sticky baby - shouldn't have given her that jam dohnut!!
I'll check back in a little while
cant see how he would think she wasnt his he is totally besotted with her. i just dont know if its me he wants or just thinks he cant have her without me. he says he needs me and her but he clearly didnt when he was phoning the lines. things havent been the same since i came home it felt like there was something he wasnt telling me and now i know what it was
a week has gone by and were talking but i cant seem to trust him. i keep checking his phone even though he has taken the number out. he keeps trying to cuddle me and stuff but it doesnt feel the same anymore. i try and stay up late with dd and even try and feed her as late as pos so hes asleep when i get to bed. i keep finding reasons not to cuddle up on the couch and i dont want to kiss him. will it get better with time i still feel hurt but we said that we wouldnt talk about it anymore and it was done but it doesnt feel done i just keep thinking about it.
i know it isnt the worst thing as it was just messages and he didnt actually cheat but it still hurts