I'm newly single (posted recently about coping with the break-up) and am not thinking about dating anytime soon. I know I'll come out of this stronger though (already feel a whole lot better) and will be thinking about finding some male company in a little while. I'm 51 and divorced so not really looking for marriage/living together, probably ever. What I'd like eventually is a long-term and committed relationship where we live separately and don't spend every waking moment together! But to start with I just want to be dating and enjoying meeting new people.
I'm concerned about having sex too soon though. I've finally learnt that having sex with someone new too early on can be a disaster for me; then I get attached and can't see the wood for the trees and stay with men who are bad for me. So this time I'm determined to get to know a man as well as I can before I even consider sleeping with him. How long that might take I don't know.
My question is, are there are many men who'd be happy to wait until a woman's comfortable or whether the majority will give up after just a few dates? I so want to change the habit of a lifetime and get to know someone really well before great chemistry blinds me to everything else. Answers from men especially welcome!
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Do most men want sex from the word go?
sparkybint · 03/06/2009 13:20
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