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How often do you do it?

(22 Posts)
mariemarie Sun 31-May-09 21:12:58

I know everyone is different, and some relationships are more "active" than others but just wondered on average how often you have sex.

We have 3DC so its difficult to be impulsive so its always at night in bed. However, DH works shifts so we tend to go through phases and its kind of feast or famine.

DH has recently made joking comments about how we dont do it enough (and I know he is right) but sometimes, we are like passing ships. When we do it, its always really good so no complaints there. I know we should both make more effort but just wondered if anyone else is the same?

MerlinsBeard Sun 31-May-09 21:15:27

Well since DS3 was born 14 months ago, DH and i have probably had sex about 5 times if that

Weegiemum Sun 31-May-09 21:19:52

my kids are older - 9, 7 and 5.

We probably get down to it once a weekm. mayve a little more ... hard as I have depression and my tablets stop me (ahem) appreciating the effort dh makes.

5-6 times a month? Prob about right!

shootfromthehip Sun 31-May-09 21:22:21

About once every 3 weeks at the moment. My DH also works late and I have usually gone to bed whilst he's working. I won't lie to you- it's shite. So in answer to your question- not often enough.

BunnyLebowski Sun 31-May-09 21:43:25

Since dd was born 8 months ago until last week DP and I didn't do it AT ALL!

I was convinced my bits were broken and when we tried a few times it hurt like buggery so we stopped. After that I had a mental block about it I think.

Something has changed in the past few weeks though. Our mojo has come back with a vengance and we've done it probably 3/4 times a week blush

Long may it continue grin

(Oh and he says it's even better than before points whispers down there blush)

BONKERZ Sun 31-May-09 21:46:53

in my relationship its me that wants it more and DH who wouldnt care if we didnt do it for a year i reckon! currently we have it about once a month.......ideally i want it once a week.....must admit this is a real problem in our relationship!

lilacclaire Sun 31-May-09 22:07:42

About once a week, his choice, I would rather it was much more.

mariemarie Sun 31-May-09 22:13:34

thanks girls, its such a big change once children arrive (well, for most of us I would imagine, although there must be some out there who are the exception).

Main problem for me is that once we have a bit of jiggy jiggy then I tend to feel like it for quite a few nights running. But then, it wears off and we very often go for weeks, and weeks, and weeks without anything. DH has made a joke out of it and asked me to even it out a bit.

BunnyLebowski Sun 31-May-09 22:23:04

I think the ebb and flow you describe is totally normal marie. Both DP and I can go weeks just not fancying it and then have periods of serious action.

What's important is that even in the "dry" spells we never stop being cuddly so lots of hugs and kisses even when we're feeling too busy/tired/fat for nookie!

togoornot Mon 01-Jun-09 22:09:01

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sorky Mon 01-Jun-09 22:11:27

every other day or we start to get grumpy with each other

adadwithnoname Mon 01-Jun-09 22:54:33

not for just over 11 years - can't really work out the average there...

Northumberlandlass Tue 02-Jun-09 07:43:16

Usually once a week, but if DS in out during the day at weekends...then we have splendid Saturdays / Sundays ! grin


PremenstrualChickens Tue 02-Jun-09 09:46:47

Probably about 10 times a month. Ish. Depends on how bad the PMT is, how busy he is at work, and whether or not their is a small child having night terrors/throwing up grin

BarefootShirl Tue 02-Jun-09 10:35:38

As often as possible grin. Seriously though, we go through feast and famine - DH sometimes works away during the week. Also, my drive is higher than his. Probably average twice a week, although I do have ways to entertain myself in between grin.

RedCharityBonney Tue 02-Jun-09 11:24:40

Sometimes once a month, sometimes 6 times. Very variable. I oblige him with a wank from time to time if I'm not in the mood and he is.

islandlassie Tue 02-Jun-09 14:57:28

DS born 8 months ago

Every other day - and always as much fun as the last time

islandlassie Tue 02-Jun-09 15:00:49

We agreed though that sex is important and never to deprive each other.

Occassionally we may rumpt a few times in a day!!! grin

Biglips Tue 02-Jun-09 15:03:51

atm its on average every 2 weeks since dd2 born 8 months ago. im trying to aim for once a week but im too tired half the time and theres alot of money-related stress on too.

RedCharityBonney Tue 02-Jun-09 16:19:28

islandlassie, are you newlyweds?? 15 years ago DH and I used to manage a daily bonk ... not any more!!

islandlassie Tue 02-Jun-09 16:53:07

haha - yeah it's our FIRST anniversary in less than 2 weeks, how did you know?? (hehewink)

I was 5 months pregnant when we wed so we are making up for the lack of sex for the first half year grin

RCB i would be delighted with up to 6 times a month after 15 years! Go you!

RedCharityBonney Wed 03-Jun-09 12:45:45

thought so wink

I suppose we average around 3 bonks a month. Is that good after 17 years? DH not so sure!!

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