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does anyone occasionally get woken up in the middle of the night by their dp/dh trying to 'get it in' while your asleep?

(243 Posts)
juicychops Tue 26-May-09 19:36:31

my dp does this occasionally, the last time being 2 nights ago. its not something that bothers me and we've got an understanding ive basically told him it doesn't bother me as long as he doesn't expect any kind of cooperation (we are talking about 2-3am, not around 10pm!!)

does anyone else have this situation??

ClaireDeLoon Tue 26-May-09 19:39:03

errr no

It really doesn't bother you? Because I'd be more than a bit pissed off. Do you mean actually entering you or just trying to wake you up with some foreplay?

geordieminx Tue 26-May-09 19:39:43


thisisyesterday Tue 26-May-09 19:40:22

erm. no.

Jojay Tue 26-May-09 19:40:36

No. My ex used to though.

Hence, Ex.

MarlaSinger Tue 26-May-09 19:40:43

????????????? what?

llareggub Tue 26-May-09 19:40:56

Absolutely not. I would most definitely not be happy about that.

Babbity Tue 26-May-09 19:41:13

how on earth can you give consent if you're asleep?

flowerybeanbag Tue 26-May-09 19:41:15

Good lord no. shock

TheBolter Tue 26-May-09 19:41:27

No way.

Maveta Tue 26-May-09 19:42:29

hahahaha. no.

Doodle2U Tue 26-May-09 19:43:24

Nope and if he tried it, he'd be a divorced DH quicker than a divorced thing having a divorced day.

Have some respect for yourself.

thisisyesterday Tue 26-May-09 19:43:34

quite frankly if anyone woke me up at 2am they'd get short shrift,

flowerybeanbag Tue 26-May-09 19:44:41

I would be most upset if my DH thought that was an acceptable thing to do to me, and I would also be upset that he thought it would be enjoyable for him under those circumstances as well.

Voltaire Tue 26-May-09 19:45:44

Does he put rohypnol in your cocoa?

flubdub Tue 26-May-09 19:46:32


MagNacarta Tue 26-May-09 19:46:38

Nope, the occassional wandering hand which is withdrawn if I don't respond maybe. I'm the least prudish person I know and I'd be very cross if dh did this.

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion Tue 26-May-09 19:47:45

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Paolosgirl Tue 26-May-09 19:48:29


Honestly, this is not a normal thing for a bloke to do. Creepy and weird.

dittany Tue 26-May-09 19:50:07

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Claire2009 Tue 26-May-09 19:50:46

ExP used to do this. angry

bumpybecky Tue 26-May-09 19:52:26

sort of - DH normally comes to be much later than me. He does sometimes attempt to wake me up with some foreplay. Sometimes it works, more often than not I get very stroppy and attempt to thump him one (which doesn't wake me up though).

However he always asks before I go to bed if I'd like him to try and wake me up later and he never forces the issue if I seems less than willing.

geordieminx Tue 26-May-09 19:52:43

I'm not being funny but is it not sore?

If anyone tried to "slip" anything in me whilst I was asleep it would knack - and I would be sore for days.... maybe I'm just-tight--.... er well you know wink

Ewe Tue 26-May-09 19:53:12

No, very, very odd.

DP will sometimes come home from a night out with the boys and drunkenly kiss and stroke my neck in an attempt to wake me up/turn me on, I've been known to do the same.

If he tried to put his cock in me however, I would probably cut it off. What a total utter lack of respect.

HaventSleptForAYear Tue 26-May-09 19:53:36

No but have had wandering hands which could turn into more (some pretty good more actually as I'm more relaxed blush).

Equally could be slapped away with a "gerroff it's 2am".

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