I posted about my mum a while back detailing my upbringing of emotional abuse and how I'd got away from it.
It's been six months since I saw her and I feel more positive about it all the time. Having time apart from her has halped me piece together some other stuff and answer some questions that have been in my head for years.
I have a daughter of almost four and am expecting a second baby in three weeks. Recently my daughter is asking questions and making comments like "perhaps we can go to nana's house for a cup of tea and a play?". I usually respond by saying that nana is "busy" (which is often true as she works full time) but I'm not sure I feel happy trotting out the same excuse all the time.
At what point do I tell her something different - and anyway - what do I tell her?
Also - when the baby arrives - I would prefer not to contact her at all but not sure this is the right thing to do. On the one hand it gives her something else to add to her list of things I've done "wrong" but on the other - we have no friends or family in common - so what do I care who she tells?
Advice needed and gratefully received!
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Six months without my mother - daughter beginning to ask questions. Where to go next?
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mogwai · 26/05/2009 19:35
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