I have two children aged 7 and 1 and am a SAHM. DH has his own business and finacially we are doing well. However last year DH took up golf and is starting to play it more and more. He began by just playing on a Friday and he was home about 7.00. It has now increased to Thursdays from tea-time onwards for the summer. However just got home today to find him now going out for a round with one of his business colleagues - apparently they are going to sort some business out at the same time! Am now starting to get a bit fed up with this.
When he first started playing, we had major rows and he said that I lived my life totally around my children (which I do!) and that he needed more to his life and wanted a hobby which I suppose I now understand.
He is quite a good dad, especially with my elder son and does go out in the garden and play football etc. with him most nights, but I have always been the hands-on mum, doing most of the everyday cares for the kids. We do quite a lot as a family, going out somewhere every Sunday and also having 2 or 3 family holidays or breaks every year.
I suppose I am feeling a bit left out of his new life but tbh cannot stand the whole golf scene and would not want to be included in it. Also, not having to work can be quite lonely at times. I do a lot with both children and go to all mother and toddler groups etc. as well as seeing friends in the week for coffee. I think what I really need is some sort of hobby or interest, so I am not always at home or on hand for him and the children. I do go out with my friends occasionally but always end up putting the young ds to bed before I go. Have thought about joining a gym but do not know if I would keep it up - has anyone got any other ideas!
Also, do you think dh is being selfish and taking the pi**. I am quite a laid back person and sometimes do not realise when people are walking over me.
Please help - any advice would be much appreciated.
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cheddar · 27/04/2005 12:30
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