First off I am a regular but DH knows I use this site so I have changed my name.
I don't know where to start, but my world is falling apart and I don't know what to do.
This is long, but here goes.
About a 18 months after I got married I found out that DH was having internet sex with a woman. He pretended that I did not exist and that he had a completely different life, I ended up accepting this and getting on with things. I also suspected him of having a RL affair at the same time with somebody else but could never prove it - he was sleeping away from home, getting pissed ALL the time and generally behaving like a pratt. After this he was great, treated me perfectly and we went on to have our first child. Things were going great until about a 15 months after the baby was born - our marriage became humdrum and I very stupidly ended up accepting the advances of a man I worked with, it happened three times. DH found out and things were absolutely terrible. We managed to work things out and then I fell pg with our second child, when I was about 12 weeks pregnant my brother told me that DH had been having an affair with his girlfriend. God my world nearly fell apart. My whole family is split and none of us have spoken a word since. DH steadfastly denies this, although I know in my heart it is true. I feel that I have to put up with it because of the kids and because I have also done it. So I let it go.
The thing is I thought things were bumbling along nicely, till yesterday. DH has been very busy at work and I have been feeling a little sidelined. I got cross about this last night, but instead of trying to work it out he went to bed and ignored me for the rest of the night. This morning he announced that he hasn't been happy for years, that I am a "cold fish" and that he hates the fact that I am so unaffectionate toward him.
The thing is, that whilst I really love him and do want to be with him, I am not remotely attracted to him. He called me a whore this morning, saying I just lie back wait for it to end and then jump in the shower.
I am crying and crying and crying. I dont know what to do, I cant decide if I am wasting my time or not.
I am not sure why I typed this.
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completeandutterlie · 24/04/2005 08:10
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