Dp's mum died January last year and dp's dad doesn't really have much in his life apart from family, especially as he has just given up his job. We have a 4 bed house and live nearish to dp's sister (who only lives in a 1 bed flat). So we do have room. He is only 60, though, and in good health apart from high blood pressure and not sleeping well (which I think is psychological). We had already talked about the possibility of inviting him to stay with us sometime in the future.
But I am upset because
(a) this is not a decision we made together. I thought the conversations were along the lines of 'something we may have to do in a few years' time', not something we were going to do right now. However, I never said, "I am not having your father living in this house". So, it appears that the lack of a definite no has been taken as a yes - which it wasn't. Hum;
(b) I've been stressed recently because of ds2's ill health. I'm only just coping as it is and I don't really want to have anything else to deal with;
(c) I'm worried about the practicalities of having dp's dad around all the time. I like him but dp has said himself that he's probably not the easiest person to live with. And I don't think it's going to help our relationship. (dp's and mine, that is). I would be happier with him living in a separate flat nearby even if it will cost more financially.
Please let me know what you think, especially if you or someone you know has had a parent/parent-in-law living with them.
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dp has invited his dad to live with us
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SamN · 18/04/2005 11:08
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