Talk

Advanced search

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide, which can point you to expert advice and support.

Why do my parents always make things so complicated?

(6 Posts)
junkcollector Thu 26-Feb-09 13:21:38

Not very important in the grand scheme of things but just need a rant.

My parents are divorced. My mum lives in Yorkshire in the same village as my grandma (My mum's mum) and my dad lives in London about 30 minutes away from me and my sister.

My sister, who lives 10 minutes down the road from me had a baby 2 weeks ago. My mum came down at the time and spent a week. She went home but agreed to come back down for a week when my sister's DH went back to work. All fine to this point...

Last night my grandma was burgled. My mum thinks quite rightly that she shouldn't be left alone for a week, so she rang my dad, from whom she is divorced, and asked him if he would travel 300 miles on the train (he has no car) up to Yorkshire to come and stay with my gran while my mum travels 300 miles down to London by car. So my dad will be up in a semi remote yorkshire village looking after his 80 year old ex mother -in-law with no car while my mum drives 200 miles to 'take my sis out for day trips'. Am I the only one who thinks this is ridiculous? Can my mum not come another time, after all I have 2 children and am therefore experienced at newborns and live 10 MINUTES ROUND THE CORNER!

Nobody has thought to discuss it with my sister, who may not want all the unnecessary fuss.

Not really expecting a response but needed a rant.

Iklboo Thu 26-Feb-09 13:24:57

That's just bizarre! Hope your dad says no to be honest

junkcollector Thu 26-Feb-09 13:27:20

I agree it is bizarre. But he has said yes!! I'm just going to leave them to it and the next time one of them moans about the other I shall just tell them to shut up.

plantsitter Thu 26-Feb-09 13:27:34

Do they have much else going on in their lives? Maybe they are desperate to feel needed. Very irritating though, especially if they haven't actually spoken to your sister about it...

thirtysomething Thu 26-Feb-09 13:28:37

does sound a bit bonkers - are there other reasons behind this bizarre behaviour? Does she think your sister isn't coping? Couldn't your dad stay with your sister instead?

junkcollector Thu 26-Feb-09 13:33:49

Yes dad could stay with my sis. I could too as am working freelance from home. I think plantsitter may be right. They need to be needed. My sister is coping fine apart from the usual new born knackeredness.

I have no idea whether they've actually told my grandma who, I have just found out, didn't tell my mum directly but told her cleaner who told my mum (Probably cos SHE DIDN'T WANT ANY FUSS!!!).

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now