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DH announced that he bored with our sex life trouble is what to do to spice it up!

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boringinbed Tue 12-Apr-05 20:54:00

DH andI have always had what i thought was a good sex life however at the weekend he anounced that he found it boring and we should try new things. Trouble is not sure what to do now he's now clammed up and told me to forget about it but it obviously does bother him and i'm not sure what to do.

kama Tue 12-Apr-05 20:55:11

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Caligula Tue 12-Apr-05 20:58:32

Buy "Hot Sex" by Tracey Cox.

In fact, buy anything by her. She's very good on technique and you can have fun reading it together!

thedogmother Tue 12-Apr-05 21:00:20

Sod him and get a rabbit ! and I don't mean the fluffy kind!

Bugsy2 Wed 13-Apr-05 10:53:36

Agree with kama - gentle coaxing through agreement always works well! Or you could through caution to the wind & do something out of the ordinary & surprise him!

elsmommy Wed 13-Apr-05 10:56:38

I bought handcuffs, a rabbit, nurses outfit and more but I think dp got a bit scared
But you could try introducing 1 of the above, I suggest the nurses outfit

highlight Wed 13-Apr-05 16:22:05

Buy your self a new rug for in front of the fire and tell DH that you caught the AP shagging on it believe me that will get him fired up!

highlight Wed 13-Apr-05 16:22:05

Buy your self a new rug for in front of the fire and tell DH that you caught the AP shagging on it believe me that will get him fired up!

blusharoony Wed 13-Apr-05 16:23:56

Text him when he's on his way home from work to say you've got no knickers on.

Bugsy2 Wed 13-Apr-05 16:24:34

lol, Highlight!! What a hotbed of passion your house is at the moment.

FastasleepTheInsomniac Wed 13-Apr-05 16:26:00

I texted DH once and said 'Ive got no knickers on' and he said - 'don't sit on the sofa then, you just cleaned it!'

dyzzidi Wed 13-Apr-05 16:28:10

PMSL fastasleep.

I recommend the rabbit!!!!!!

FastasleepTheInsomniac Wed 13-Apr-05 16:29:16

My man is so romantic honestly. The Rabbit does sound like a good investment....

Tortington Wed 13-Apr-05 17:31:58

i think you should agree with him to only heres the twist - yousay " remember what you said the other night, well your right - actually have been thinking it for a long time but didn't want to say"

then the onus isn't on you to go out and buy a leatheroutfit with whips and chains and marshmellow dip.

huggybear Wed 13-Apr-05 17:43:03

1. Buy the wench out fit from ann summers
2.Pack the kids off for the evening/night
3.Be wearing it when he gets home from work - make sure you open the front door to him
4. his chin will hit the floor, he'll recover - ask what your up to and then go to touch you. As he reaches out to touch you tap his habd and say "dont touch the staff"
5- offer him a seat and poor him a drink (dont let him touch) and generally do a bit of tidying - you know the sort of thing, feather duster, slightly bent over etc - but every time he tries to touch just tap his hand and say "dont touch the staff"
6- after an hour of teasing he'll be gagging for it and the dominate part of him will love being the master and you the servant. Let him lead you into stuff and be all innocent - call him master or sir.

well..... it worked for me

RnB Wed 13-Apr-05 17:45:55

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huggybear Wed 13-Apr-05 18:02:04

highlight Wed 13-Apr-05 18:48:57

The wench outfit you say maybe that will take his mind off the rug! My DH also likes the thrill of almost being caught. I think the whole AP experience (see caught AP out thread!) has reminded him! anyway hes gone out for an hour so I can recover!

HappyDaddy Wed 13-Apr-05 22:54:50

Phew huggybear, is it me or is it hot in here?

SleepyJess Wed 13-Apr-05 23:18:21

It's just you HD! Women can discuss these things without getting 'hot'!

Caligula Wed 13-Apr-05 23:19:57

Ooh, you dirty bitch!

Love the "don't touch the staff bit" - but not so much the dusting.

What a shame most sex fantasies don't involve him doing something useful - unless of course, it's the Desperate Housewive's toyboy mowing the lawn scenario...

goreousgirl Wed 13-Apr-05 23:20:37

Blimey - it's like Jilly Cooper on MN you naughty lot!

goreousgirl Wed 13-Apr-05 23:20:40

Blimey - it's like Jilly Cooper on MN you naughty lot!

LGJ Wed 13-Apr-05 23:29:20

Well ...........................

I am I going to be the first with real practical information over and above HB's post ??

It concerns the issue of BJ's

Dior Wed 13-Apr-05 23:33:59

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