I am feeling very grim at the moment.
DP has been making comments about what I eat (say if I finish all my dinner etc) and saying 'greedy' and other helpful comments. Yesterday I asked him if he genuinely thinks I am fat or if he was just joking (oh lolol how funny). He says that I am more overweight than I was when we met and he doesn't find me as attractive as he used to.
As you can imagine I am completely deflated, i kind of knew he was thinking this but I am completely demoralised to disover he is this shallow. He could be 18 stone and covered in scales and I would still feel the same as i always have.
The silly thing is that I do not think I am fat. When he met me I was a size 8 (achieved from watching what I ate and a lot of exercise). yes, I have put on weight, I am now a size 10-12. Bearing in mind I am six foot I am not exactly obese.
Fair enough I have changed physically and exercise and fitness has taken a back seat, and perhaps I should remedy that, but I am pissed off with him and feel resentful. Don't really know what to say to him (other than loud swearing). Needless to say he is normally lovely and wonderfully supportive of me, and has always been confidence boosting, compliments etc. So is a bit shocking that he has said this, i don't know whether he is (a) a misogynist that should be ignored/told to eff off or (b) he has a point. Thoughts anyone??
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DP says he thinks I have put on too much weight and am not as attractive any more.
GetOrfMoiLand · 18/02/2009 16:38
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