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Help! Need Advice if I am doing the right Divorce thing Pleeeez

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Hawaiiangal Mon 11-Apr-05 06:54:08

HI All, It all started when I met this guy on the internet who said he was a single parent. I too was a single parent but my children were from the pre teen age to adult. (2Boys) It caught my eye when this separated military guy said he is fighting for custody of his two children and two children that were from other men. Said CPS was in the process of taking children away. I fell for the kids and came to the rescue. The ex now was from a foriegn country who got pregnant for citizenship. To make a long story short the state awarded or him with full custody due to finding ex unfit. House was filthy, dead animals, she prostituted and gambled and the home that my man purchased was in September 1999. Ex ran off with another man in Jan 1st week of 2000. I met my now husband on the internet in April 2000. All was fine we were bonding until the mil begged to live with us. My mil destroyed our marriage when she came to live with us in 2003. This made the two children want to move back with there bio mom. One child was his and the other was step. I have been finding out my now husband is giving her money, letting her cry on his shoulder when she has problems with her boyfriend and pushes him to see the step child that is keeping the biological child from seeing me. All this secret games is driving me mad. I now am dealing with a mil who says I hit her, and I sent her back to the states after this lie. I dont have supportive in laws, my parents died, I dont have anyone to talk too. I told my husband give me a divorce and go back to your past because I cannot deal with liars. He keeps disagreeing because he knows I am the breadwinner and if I report him to the military he may lose alot. I asked him to clean his name and we would repay the money and he wont. I am so tire. He wont take me to a military counseler because he doesnt want me to tell the truth. He only has a few thousand extra due to lying about how many dependants he has listed as he is still showing he has custody of all children. He was caught by these children in the house on his computer downloading porno and this is why they wanted out aside from the arguments the grandmother gave. You ask why I allowed the mom to come on board, the sister her own daughter was going to kill the mom because the mom was fighting with her grandson. Well thats what the female children said. I threatened to call the cops is why my husband deleted all the porno. Please write I am open with all ears on anything or experience you can hand down to me. Thank you.

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