Since having children I find that I find the whole topic of "friendship" much more difficult. I have quite a few friends and acquaintances (sp?) and I value the time I spend with them, but some of them are in Germany, so a bit far away, and also childless and still very much into partying and their career, whereas I have been a SAHM for four years.
The people I'm close to in this country do all have children, and they're lovely people. But - and I really hope this doesn't come over all wrong: In a vital part of my life, which is raising children, we're in many ways not on the same wavelength. I'm very much into attachment parenting, whereas they're all decidedly not. This means that there's many things I find difficult to discuss as they don't share my views/experiences. So I don't even talk about sleep/breastfeeding/weaning etc. because my views are opposed to theirs but I don't want them to feel that I criticize their choices, because I don't, I just make different ones. But it means that I can't ask for advice, discuss my own problems - oh I don't know. I know childrearing is by no means everything, and I do really really like my friends here etc. But it would just be great to have one friend who is largely on the same wavelength as me, so I could just pick up the phone and say "God I'm so tired, dd2 who's co-sleeping and 20 months woke up three times to breastfeed last night..." without the response being just one big question mark or something else...
Do I expect too much? What are your friendships like? What is it all about? Confused of Gloucestershire!
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