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My friend has stolen my other friends

(10 Posts)
swanduck Thu 05-Feb-09 16:50:06

Okay, I know friends can't be stolen, but I feel as if one of my friends has stolen my others.

Basically I had a great group of friends but when I met dh I became friends with his friends too. We all live in same town so both sets of friends became integrated. One of my old friends has in particular become friends with the new friends - she has been on holiday with one of them and I know she meets another regularly for coffee. If I ever go to a birthday party of one of them or an event they have arranged she is always there. I feel crappy about this and hate fact that they all like her more than they like me. What should I do?

MissisBoot Thu 05-Feb-09 16:52:10

Nothing at all.

You need to re-read what you've just written and put it into perspective.

VinegarTits Thu 05-Feb-09 16:53:33

Erm you need to grow up

ForeverOptimistic Thu 05-Feb-09 16:54:47

They don't like her MORE than you they just like her too. You are friends with her and you are also friends with the others too, you have something in common with all of them so it is likely that group A will have something in common with group B. You should take it as a compliment, people must think you are a good judge of character!

SalBySea Thu 05-Feb-09 16:56:15

you should remember that you are not in primary school any more and people can have more than one BFF

Sorry, I know that's harsh, but like MissisBoot said, try re-reading what you wrote.

Alternatively, spread the word that friend A said that friend B is fat and you heard that friend B fanices friend A's man.

wotulookinat Thu 05-Feb-09 17:07:51

You have introduced a friend to some new people who she now gets on with really well. They happen to be close now. It's not about you - they are not trying to exclude you or spite you, they just happen to get along. Don't feel bad - be proud that you introduced them!

bubblagirl Thu 05-Feb-09 17:08:28

its ok to feel jealous but were adults go out of your way to do more with the friends it really doesn't mean they like her more they may have more opportunity to do things than you do

but that's ok no body can steal friends and life is more fun with lots of friends that get on dont be jealous do more with them instead

TsarChasm Thu 05-Feb-09 17:10:02

Hmm...well if they all get on fair enough but going on holiday with your friend and not inviting you (did they not, I wasn't sure from your op?) is a bit exclusive.

ThePgHedgeWitchIsCrankyBeware Thu 05-Feb-09 17:10:21

Message withdrawn

Nontoxic Thu 05-Feb-09 17:16:53

Are you not seeing this old friend any more? If you only see her when you bump into her with your friends, that's going to make you feel bad.
Could you test the waters by arranging to meet up, not to confront her but to see how the two of you interact.
At least then you'll know whether you're imagining things or not.

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