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Partner has turned out to be a nutter

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SnackJack Sun 25-Jan-09 22:26:14

I'm feeling so down and fed up. I was a single parent for almost 8 years, had a few disastrous relationships in the meantime, ended up thinking I was meant to be alone for ever and then I met what I thought to be a lovely man.
He would take me out for dinner, send me flowers randomly, treated me like a princess, I LOVED spending time with him, we were planning a holiday together and he was great with my kids.

I really thought he was "the one".

Anyway for the past couple of weeks things have been different, he has seemed pre-occupied, when I phone he seems 'cold' and made excuses about why we couldn't meet until last night he said "we need to talk" and I thought "great, here it comes...its not working out or 'i've found someone else' blah blah blah"

So we arranged for him to come here tonight. I made us dinner, he was quiet all night. Kids went to bed, I asked what he wanted to talk about and he started off by saying "this is going to be so hard, you're not going to understand or even believe what I tell you but its taken so much courage to decide it needs to be said"

So I'm like hmm just get on with it...

He sits opposite me, holds my hand, looks directly at me and with the straightest face you could imagine says......

"I'm a vampire".

I didn't say anything at first, just looked at him before saying "what?" and he repeated it.

I obviously assumed it was a metaphore for something else but he went on to assure me that he was actually a real, full on vampire.

I told him I wasn't in the mood for games and playing around, sense of humour may have taken a dive tonight, whatever but I wanted to know why he has cooled right off these past few weeks. He kept on with this stupid fucking vampire story until in the end I just told him to leave.

I can't believe it has ended like this. I mean, if he wanted to break up, why couldn't he give me a proper reason? we have been together for almost a year now, surely too long to take the piss like this as a quick and half hearted way to dump me?

I'm sick to death of everything. DD is playing me up something rotten and now I'm stuck back to being a single parent again.

hellymelly Sun 25-Jan-09 22:31:59

He sounds completely and utterly bonkers,it may not feel like it now but I think you've had a lucky escape and in a year or so you will be laughing about it.There are a lot of nutty men out there,you have just had the bad luck to date one.

saphron Sun 25-Jan-09 22:32:25

Maybe he is into neck biting, and its his way of telling you.

Heated Sun 25-Jan-09 22:33:17

Surely there were clues?

moondog Sun 25-Jan-09 22:34:22


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ilovemydogandMrObama Sun 25-Jan-09 22:34:54

Hmmm - when did he decide to be a vampire? hmm His behavior changed last few weeks, so was it then he decided to be one?

Heated Sun 25-Jan-09 22:35:33

Did he have a reflection?

Quattrocento Sun 25-Jan-09 22:35:44

I'm really sorry SnackJack

But agog that there are modernday vampires. What do they do? How would his vampirishness affect his (your) life?

thisisyesterday Sun 25-Jan-09 22:39:10

oh dear.

fwiw there are communities of "vampires" just google it! some people have special caps made for their teeth! and you can get ones with little tubes in so you can drink blood.
some of them do in fact have "victims" who cut themselves to provide the "vampire" with blood.

so erm, yes, still weird! but it might not be a lie

YeToxicHighRoad Sun 25-Jan-09 22:41:46

That's a fantastic story SJ! Laughed my cods off. Thanks darling.

Loreleyjynx Sun 25-Jan-09 22:45:00

Hi Snackjack.
So sorry for you. Men are so good at hiding who they really are.
My Dad had a stroke and after my sis had rushed up here to be with him, as we didn't know whether he was going to make it through the first 48 hours, her partner of 3 and a half years phoned her and dumped her, saying he'd met some-one else.????
This sounds a bit alarming to me and I think that you should give him a wide berth. It's very abnormal behaviour.
I've been there, too, as a single parent. It is lonely. Sorry there's nothing I can say to make you feel better.
Thinking of you - big hug.

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 25-Jan-09 22:45:25

Bloody hell, what did you make him for dinner to prompt this announcement? Garlic mushrooms?!

Tidgypuds Sun 25-Jan-09 22:52:30

Where there really no clues?

Did he wear his collar up
Pasty complexion/borrowed your rouge
Long nails
Did he sleep with his arms crossed
Did he say 1 hahahahaha 2hahahahaha 3hahahahaha 4hahahaha so on and so forth?

Quattrocento Sun 25-Jan-09 22:52:30

I did google it, and do you know there ARE real vampires out there? this organisation claims to have been registered as a religion in the US


WEESLEEKITLauriefairycake Sun 25-Jan-09 22:56:32

You're not 'stuck being a single parent again' - you have got away from someone who looks at your neck lasciviously while you sleep.

Who thinks drinking blood has health properties.

Who you would never want a cat with.

Or a kid, particularly a baby with prominent veins.

CurlyhairedAssassin Sun 25-Jan-09 22:57:33

There are some strange people in this world. My sister once went out with someone who said he believed that because he felt that he was somehow different from everyone else, it was clear to him that he was in fact an alien from another planet. He also admitted to regularly shagging sofas. Funniliy enough, his housemate/best mate also once claimed that on his way home one night, a figure had kind of flown down from a tree in front of him, a vampire-like figure - maybe it was your boyfriend?! Hmmmmm.......very wierd people about....

YeToxicHighRoad Sun 25-Jan-09 22:57:59

Snackjack, this is your first post as well.... Can't decide who's laughing more now - him or you?

Feenie Sun 25-Jan-09 22:59:11

Is it? I just did a search, and found several....

ravenAK Sun 25-Jan-09 23:01:28

Has he been to the cinema & seen 'Twilight' by any chance? grin

Intheclouds Sun 25-Jan-09 23:01:55

mmm, he has lost the plot {shock}

UnquietDad Sun 25-Jan-09 23:02:34

Perhaps it was his way of saying he is getting a bit long in the tooth for a serious relationship.

You didn't give him any garlic bread with dinner, did you?...

I'm sorry, everyone is taking the piss... I know some people "genuinely" think they are vampires. But I thought most of them were about 15...

SnackJack Sun 25-Jan-09 23:03:17

I know it sounds stupid, I'M not making up what he said although obviously I'm not saying what he said was true!

Please don't think I'm a troll, I feel shitty enough as it is.

Thinking back, there have been certain "wierdness" about things he has said but I've just always ignored it. It never seemed like a big deal until now.

And amazingly he was actually offended that I didn't believe him hmm

thisisyesterday Sun 25-Jan-09 23:10:08

well you know, maybe he really believes this. and it's a big part of his life??

sooo you can either accept his vampire-ness and live with it, if he's that lovely.

or, write him off and find someone better suited to you.

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