"We'll get you easter eggs and see you then" said the postcard.
Another postcard exactly the same as the first arrived the following day, addressed to DD1 (nearly 3 yrs).
From MIL, of course. Firstly, no-one has prevented her from seeing the girls but herself. Secondly, they've made no effort whatsoever to call or visit DD's over Easter (or present easter eggs, FTM). The lying bi**ch.
Thanks! Feel marginally better for getting that out, but and on DD's behalf!
send a thank you note - reiterating she is welcome to see the kids at any time
" thank you for your thoughtful postcards. it was a lovely thing to do and showed us all how much you cared. please do feel free to arrange a time to come and see us. i am sure the children would very much enjoy it and i will get in a packet of ginger nuts just for the occasion"
if she thinks you hate her guts - this lovely letter will really piss her off
We got a letter like that for DS in his last birthday, saying that MIL missed him and his father and that she can not had contact with him because I was angry with her and that I have not wanted to talk about it with her. She obviously forgot to include that I have decided not to talk it through any longer after her seven years long failure to respect our independance as a family, or the years of racist comments. She also conveniently didn't mention that she had asked DH to decide between her and me just a few seconds afterwards. The only thing she won with that letter is that she would not see DS unsupervised in the future.
I like Custardo's too, but TBH, I just haven't got the restraint not to add bracketed comments............
" thank you (you insufferable cow) for your (un) thoughtful postcards. it was ('nt) a lovely thing to do and showed us all how much you (haven't) cared. please do feel free to arrange a time to come and see us (and we will try our damndest to be inextricably tied up somewhere far away)). i am sure the children would very much (not) enjoy it and i will get in a packet of (arsenic to lace the) ginger nuts just for the occasion"
Anyway, BIL turned up today to shower DD's in a bag load of goodies (bribes) from MIL. So was met at the door by DH, who said thanks very much, but we would prefer to give these to DD's later on, when we'll have the time and peace to answer any questions about the situation as it stands. (Or something similar).
- I'm pleased with this, as well as ensuring we could intercept any weird additions to the usual easter faire, it has given the clear message that DH and I run this home, and that while the girls are little at least, we will decide how things are done around here.
MIL has previously gone by a very much 'divide and conquer' rule where DH and I are concerned. Although we now have no contact with M+FIL, we are standing together as a family at last, and TBH, it feels really good!