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Dilema Sleeping with 20 year old, please be gentle

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toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 10:07:29

Please somebody come and slap me, I am a regular and over the festive period I have ended up sleeping with a 20 year old man blush and he keeps on wanting to see me hmm I am a old women compared to him, I am 35 and single (people think I am only in my mid 20's), but he thinks I am sexy hmm and he says he enjoys my company. Do I just enjoy this for what it is or knock it on the head.

Northumberlandlass Wed 31-Dec-08 10:08:35

Enjoy Enjoy Enjoy !!!!

Please don't worry about it and have fun!


evaangel Wed 31-Dec-08 10:10:05

did you enjoy it?

bigTillyMint Wed 31-Dec-08 10:10:25

envy, envy, envy

Nemostwonderfultimeoftheyear Wed 31-Dec-08 10:11:52

if you are happy then enjoy it..

dietstartstomorrow Wed 31-Dec-08 10:12:19


Coldtits Wed 31-Dec-08 10:12:58

er, enjoy it, why wouldn't you?/ He's 20, not 14!

35 isn't old.

My neighbour, when I was a child, had a husband 20 years her junior. He was actually younger than her eldest daughter - he was her second husband.

He has been a devoted husband, he is in his 50s now and she is in her 70s, and they are still together.

It can work. It may not work for you but that doesn't mean it is wrong.

toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 10:15:51

oh yes best lover I have ever had blush

I havent told anyone in real life. I just cant believe it's happening to me

LiffeyValleyOfTheDolls Wed 31-Dec-08 10:17:59

Enjoy it, 'til the moment he starts making you feel old rather than young.

Rindercella Wed 31-Dec-08 10:20:09



evaangel Wed 31-Dec-08 10:20:44

enjoy it!
If he thinks your sexy, take the compliment, you can be sexy at 35

does he want to see you again?

whomovedmychocolate Wed 31-Dec-08 10:21:07

Good for you. Just don't get pregnant!

brightwell Wed 31-Dec-08 10:24:19

Heavens...enjoy & stay safe!

toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 10:35:11

Yes I have seen him 4 times now blush and god I have never been so horny, he knows what he is doing in that department blushand so caring and always asking me if I am ok. And he texts me all time and every morning when he leaves he asks when he could see me again grin I just dont know how he could fancy me as he is gorgeous and a body to die for when I have a stretch mark stomach from hell and wobbly bits. And can hold a conversation he seems more mature than my ex husband.

Dont worry we use condoms and he doesnt complain about that!!! makes a change from some men I know.

I will just relax and enjoy, I have just been worrying to much about what the neighbours would think if they saw him leave or my friends, but he is most discreet leaves his car around the corner.

lalalonglegs Wed 31-Dec-08 10:38:08

God, I would be longing for neighbours to see - demand that he drives up to front gate, stereo blasting and blasts horn envy. Have a fabulous new year.

XmasFairyGrrrl Wed 31-Dec-08 10:50:06

you are an adult, he is an adult, you are happy, he is happy. I see no problem myself. There's 12 years between DH and I and it's never affected our relationship. And there's nothing wrong with wobbly tits!

toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 10:52:08

Oh lalalonglegs that made me laugh, gosh that would give the nosey old bat across the road something to moan, I could just imagine the look on her face. Very tempting

Northumberlandlass Wed 31-Dec-08 10:52:16

He's 20 and a good lover......fecking hell. I am v envy now.


MumHadEnoughTinsel Wed 31-Dec-08 10:54:53

Woooo hooooooooo, enjoy it! envy

toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 11:11:21

You have all put my mind at rest. I will enjoy it and all the orgasms he is giving me grin

Will keep you all posted I am seeing him again at the weekend oh bliss, I am in lust blush

QueenEagle Wed 31-Dec-08 11:19:29

Oh, fantastic! Enjoy! If he makes you happy and is a fab lover, what is wrong with that? He loves your body as it is, he knows what he is doing, wow, wow, wow. (Little secret - I had a very brief fling with a 22 year oldlast year, I am 38 and it was awesome while it lasted). Like you I have stretchmarks and wobbly bits and I worried that I was old enough to be his mother - you have to put that aside and just enjoy it girl!!

toyboylover Wed 31-Dec-08 11:23:20

Oh yes I worry about being old enough to be his mother. But the more reassurance that I have got from you all on here the bigger my grin is getting grin

misscathcart Wed 31-Dec-08 11:28:15

enjoy it! As long as you are both open about where it may or may not be going then I don't see the problem.

solidgoldstuffingballs Wed 31-Dec-08 11:31:16

Enjoy, enjoy. It's doing you so much good!
I copped off with two 27-year-olds last month (and I am in my 40s). COuldn't get the spring out of my step for weeks wink.

Relationships don't have to follow the mundane path to the grave marriage-and-breeding to be valid and valuable: a short fling between consenting adults that ends amicably is life-enhancing and to be appreciated.

XmasFairyGrrrl Wed 31-Dec-08 11:34:35

solidgold- were you madame z?

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