Things were quite bad between me and my partner towards the end of last year and he started going out lots and drinking lots. He sudden;y made a new friend 'Joe' who he spend a few nights round his...he had never spent a night apart from me in the 2 years we had been together. about a month later he admitted to having an affair with 'Jo' who turned out to be a girl. She is the sister of an old mate. She rang me and gave me loads of abuse sayin how ugly i am and no wonder he left me for her. We split up but continued living in the same house as i was 7 months pregnant and had no where else to go. He became very nasty towards me. He continued seeing her right under my nose for another few weeks until boxing day when they split up... she told him she was pregnant.
Our son was born in Jan and he begged me to take him back. I took him back (like a mug)but things got a lot better between us. I have spoken to 'Jo' since then because although i am sure she is making up the pregnancy, i really need to know for sure cos if she really is i don't know what i will do.
Although things are better between us, i can't get it all out of my head. i cry nearly every day and i have no self confidence what so ever. i can't trust him at all and whenever he goes out im worried he is with someone else. Because i kind of know the girl, every time my partner says something horrible to me or whenever i have a horrible thought about myself or put myself down, i automatically compare myself to 'Her' and she always comes out better and i think why is he with me? Just for our son? i don't know what to do to try and put it all behind me. its ripping me apart. Please any advice would be greatly appreciated. (sorry its so long)
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Why cant i put partner's affair behind me?
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juicychops · 27/03/2005 20:30
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