Hi all. Feeling a bit down and wonder if anyone else out there feels the same.
We have an 8-month old boy and he's wonderful. I love looking after him and seeing him develop.
The problem is that my boyfriend is self-employed and seems to be too busy all the time to get involved with the baby. In the 8 months I doubt if he has spent more than a total of one hour with his son. I have never seen him pick up the baby to play with him at his own accord. If I want him to interact with the baby I have to physically pass the baby to him. And even then he would not spend more than a few minutes with him before passing him back to me.
It's not that he doesn't love the baby, it's just that his mind is always focussed on something else that he thinks is more urgent. I feel like a single parent most of the time. I have mentioned to him a couple of times that it would be nice if he could spend more time with our baby, but he never seems to manage to relax from his business chores.
When I hear my friends saying their partners would come home from work and bathe their babies, or keep babies up for a bit too long past bedtime, I feel so envious.
I am trying to cope with this loneliness and not to 'go on' at him but it's difficult. How can I let him know that he needs to do more without sounding like I'm nagging? I also feel terribly sorry for our little boy that he doesn't seem to have a father at the moment.
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Anyone else feels like a single parent?
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Cube · 26/03/2005 13:14
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