iam at the moment going to relate to try to patch up my relationship. I was due to get married this year, my partner acused me of having an affair which was totally not true, he walked out for a week. We got back together decided to call wedding and engagnent of i dont think it was a good idea to get married the bloke i fell in love with and was due to marry was acussing me of something iam not capable of hes changed, not the man i fell in love with. We or should i say i decided relate would help us both. Hes told me he doesnt trust me, we are not a couple like we were, there is no contact, cuddles kisses let alone sex, he just doesnt talk. Iam trying so hard to reach him but feel he is getting further away. All hes bothered about is work he says. Iam going out iof my mind and ready to throw the towl in
Agree with Colditzmum... Further it is a long journey ahead of you, and you will need support, trust and maturity. There WILL be someone out there for you, but this guy doesn't sound the one. Sorry if it sounds blunt?
laney, i read the post. he's treating her like crap, should she put up with that? In my opinion, no she shouldn't. Just because you don't agree, doesn't mean you are right. Nor does my point mean I'm right.
Laney, I agree that you should make every effort to make things work in many situations. But I agree with HD on this; the guy sounds unpleasant and getting married would just complicate the situation...
If you are ready to throw the towel in on this then you must go with your gut instinct.
If a friend was teeling you this what would your own counsel be?.
I think you were wise to cancel the wedding at the time if he treated you like that.
If he is not prepared to give you an emotionally honest answer as to why he is behaving the way he is (I would say that jealousy and self esteem are inextrciably linked) then he has given you his answer albeit subconsciously. Him not talking is not being fair on you.
Although Lacey is correct in that problems should be worked at, it has to be done by both of you equally. As it is you are trying to patch up your relationship but he is seemingly not doing anything to try to resolve things. He frankly does not seem at all interested in trying to work things out.
was over the moon with all your help and support. I did want to give it ago and to a certain degree think you should work at things but when its only a one way street you carnt sort anything out, its just stupid and selfish the way hes going on. Relate is my last stab at it i know that for sure. I have 3 kids 18, 13, and 3 the youngest is his i was married before and i suppose thats another reason i cancelled the wedding dont want to make the same mistake