My ex dp contacts me periodically via email (maybe once a year), saying he'd like to meet up. He was the big love of my life, and things ended very badly/painfully. He chose to end the relationship but not because he didn't love me - after an unhappy marriage/messy divorce, he couldn't contemplate living together/getting married/having a child with me and felt it was best to end things after 5 years. A bit ironic that he now is happily married (according to mutual friends), and has a young child.....
I struggled for a long time to get over him. I feel no need to be in touch, and I never respond to his emails. I can't see how it would benefit me in any way. I fear that seeing him will revive old feelings - feelings which I have struggled to put behind me. I don't wish we were still together, but I think seeing him could make me sad.
Some friends encourage me to meet up, saying that it will give me "closure". Is there anything to be gained? Perhaps it's relevant to say here that I have not had a serious relationship since we split...
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Earlybird · 19/03/2005 08:57
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