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Anyone live in the past?

(8 Posts)
whatif Sat 12-Mar-05 13:17:24

I find myself forever saying 'ifonly' and 'whatif'. I know its not healthy - the past is past and I cannot regret what I did or didn't do and even if things had been different its not to say I would be any happier. Anyone got any advice on focussing on the present and appreciating what I do have rather than wosrrying about what I don't?

tallulah Sat 12-Mar-05 17:28:12

If you find the answer, please let me know!

I spend my life wishing I'd done everything differently & it really doesn't help. You can't change what's gone but I find I just can't stop.

I've reached the stage where I'm wishing i'd enjoyed my kids more when they were little & wishing they were little again... of course at the time it was hell-on-earth...

Blossomhill Sat 12-Mar-05 17:30:56

I have been and also worry about the future too. I have been seeing an alternative yoga/colour clairvoyant and she said I waste too much time thinking about the past and the future. I need to live for today. Maybe you should think the same xxx

kama Sat 12-Mar-05 17:31:47

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mummylonglegs Sat 12-Mar-05 17:39:56

I used to really regret some things in the past, the way I wasted time, made stupid decisions etc. But right now with dd just 2.5 I always think well, if I'd done things differently I wouldn't be here with her right now and so I can accept all those past things because I do think that being here right now with her is far and away the best and most important part of my life.

justamom Sat 12-Mar-05 22:54:41

with all the mistakes that i have made, almost all have been for reason..everytime i think well if i would have done this, what if i would have done that well then i end up someone else than the persn that i am today and i kinda like the person i am today..i don't lye ( except you know lil white ones), love people, i would die for a stranger, i can follow or be led, and i am a good mom..Don't get me wrong i second guess myself, as a matter of fact i was in the mist of a what if session when i read this and i thought...............I LOVE ALL I AM!! and i wouldn't be without the person i didn't like in the beginning...
p.s. now i didn't say that i don't think about changing the once made decisions to something else.

sansouci Sat 12-Mar-05 23:04:07

Yes, I often think about the past and miss it. I think so much has changed for the worse, which is a terrible way to feel. Not worse just for me but for society in general.

I do regret mistakes I made, "bad" decisions, stupid behavior, etc. but I have learned so much, which is a good thing. I have also had so much fun & good times, too. I love remembering!

sansouci Sat 12-Mar-05 23:06:06

Not to say my life is bad; it's not, it's wonderful but I hate getting older! Hate it! I'm going to have to come to terms with it, of course.

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