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Has your husband ever asked you to...

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 20:35

lick his anus?

Mine has recently requested this - am perturbed, he has never expressed an interest before. We have been having a difficulttime recently, don't want to appear dismisive yet... it'sjust a bit eurgh for me! Am not sure if I am being precious or if HIBU????!

Advice would be great...

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mooog · 03/11/2008 20:42

I have been with my husband for 26yrs and we really do have an exciting sex life
But must be honest. He has never asked this of me (thank god), and to be honest I cant remember me ever refusing to try anything (at least once) that may have caught his or my fancy, but I think you have just found something that I personally couldn't and wouldn't do .
On the other hand, if you find you dont mind giving it a go, then go for it, its just not for me.

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 20:46

That's the thing -
I really don't feel i could.
Our sex life has always been ok, not spectacular, but ok.

Now he has asked this( which is brave of him I know!!) Am not sure what to think now.

It's made me feel abit 'off him' if ykwim :-(

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hecate · 03/11/2008 20:48

No.

But I have come to learn (on here!) that many people enjoy it.

Personally, I just couldn't.

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whomovedmychocolate · 03/11/2008 20:50

Urgle!

That's quite unhygienic.

I believe the term is 'rimming'. Now I clean the loos in our house so I'm fairly clear on what comes out of that hole and my tongue is going no-where near it (not that DH has ever expressed a wish for me too).

If you do decide to go for it, buy some dental dams first!s

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Miyazaki · 03/11/2008 20:51

does it have to be lick? is it for the sensation or a fantasy?

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 20:52

am a bit precious, but doesn't seem right

Have been trying for babyno 3, feel like it's a backlash... how could it be enjoyable???!!!!

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SparklyButNice · 03/11/2008 20:52

Bleurgh!

If you don't want to do it (and who'd blame you), then you certainly are NBU to refuse.

There are people who enjoy rimming though (or so I've heard from more than one friend).

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PortoTreasonandPlot · 03/11/2008 20:55

OOOh no! Washing a DH's pants is enough to make me believe that this is NOT a good idea. Even if it had been scrubbed to within a inch of it's life! With dettol!

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whomovedmychocolate · 03/11/2008 20:56

Rather a backlash than a backdraft (while you are down there bleuuugrrrrhhh)

You can't get pregnant from kissing any part of the anatomy that's for sure!

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NotDoingTheHousework · 03/11/2008 20:56

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 20:57

Eurgh PT& P - but why does he want me to??? 10 years and he asks me now???!!!!!

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QuintessentialGunpowderPlot · 03/11/2008 20:57

Ermmm

Could you stimulate his anal area with wet finger while doing a bj?

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 20:57

I am such a prude

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whomovedmychocolate · 03/11/2008 20:58

Has he been watching interesting nature DVDs?

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QuintessentialGunpowderPlot · 03/11/2008 20:59

He has possibly wanted it done to him for some time, and plucked up the courage.

Just say noncomittically "we'll see what we can do, but maybe not with my tongue".

There really is nothing wrong with it, it doesnt make him gay, or anything.

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PortoTreasonandPlot · 03/11/2008 20:59

Has he been watching anything different recently and picked up some ideas? Maybe it's a long held fantasy, and he's just plucked up the courage. Does he, umm, want to do it to you in return?

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QuintessentialGunpowderPlot · 03/11/2008 21:00

It took me by surprise when dh did it to me (not with tongue) but it was quite nice. I tried it on him, he did not quite like it.

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PortoTreasonandPlot · 03/11/2008 21:02

I went out with a guy once who used his finger. I'm not sure if nice is the word I'd use - I took it as a hint that he might want me to do it back, but couldn't quite bring myself.....

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 21:02

Oh God, my buttocks are clenching in fear!! One thing oral (on birthdays and Christmas!) butthink that is too much!!!! Really,how many people lick anuses regularly??!

FGS, am notthat prudish surely-my poor dh??!

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padboz · 03/11/2008 21:03

Get drunk, get in the shower, wash it yourself (want something done properly etc etc) and then do it, its fine and it makes them LOVE you

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 21:04

LICK IT???!!!!

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QuintessentialGunpowderPlot · 03/11/2008 21:04

erm, as I said, no licking needs to be involved.
snort, and we always shower first... So squeeky clean. Just unclench your buttocks, dahling, now theres a dear....

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themildmanneredaxemurderer · 03/11/2008 21:04

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oddsock · 03/11/2008 21:05

(oddsock iscrying in her repressed corner....)!!!

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Miyazaki · 03/11/2008 21:07

QS you have made me laugh and laugh on this thread.

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