My DW has had contact with an ex and the nature of what has been said has rocked me! I am in pieces! A lot of the internet conversations have included the idea of meeting up, reminiscing over what they used to get up to, sexually, when they were together and other inappropriate flirting of a sexual nature - it looks like it may just be banter, but I feel extremely hurt. I know nothing has 'happened' between them but does this constitute cheating??
People may not think of it as cheating but it could be the first step to cheating if they get overexcited and to a point where they can't control themselves rather than just leaving it at that. I think this can happen quite quickly and without them really realising so it is best to stop now.
Everyone has their own opinion on when its becomes cheating or not, but if you're uncomfortable about anything she's doing you should tell her.
Did she volunteer the info that he'd been in touch at all? Was it a big secret?
To RagingHormone - she shouldn't even be discussing films they liked together?????? If discussing past likes with exs is banned to that extent then I cheat all the time! I'm actually really proud of the fact I'm still in contact with some of my exs and can talk to them. It means we split amicably enough to still be friends. And as far as I know dH also sees it as proof I'm a nice person and not the evil bitch certain exs might make me out to be!
Have re-read OP. 'Suggestions of meeting up' would be very worrying. Who's making the suggestions? If its her, then huge alarm bells should be ringing; if he's suggesting and she's finding excuses not to, then she might just be trying to let him down gently?