Basically, I just wonder how a woman could even consider staying with a man who she knew sexually abused her pre-pubescent daughter?
I have blocked this out for years and years, but now I'm having my own child I could not even consider for one minute letting my child be at risk, and it's completely doing my head in that I was put in that situation.
In a nutshell, my Mum met this bloke when I was 10, got pregnant to him when I was 11, married him when I was 12. About that age he started doing stuff to me, I don't want to go into too much detail. After about a year I reported him to a teacher at school, who called the police. But basically, he talked her round and that very night she let him back into our home, into her bed. I was allowed to stay with my grandparents for a couple of nights but he then made me go back home (he was physically abusive too) and he made ME apologise to HIM for telling the police.
We had to stay for another 6 months, until he threatened to kill her, and then we finally moved out. In that time, he did try to make his disgusting advances to me again, but I managed to avoid being alone with him as much as possible.
How, though? How could she let it carry on? Why didn't she just kick him out that night after I'd gone to the police, once she knew what he'd done? How could she live with him still, sleep in the same bed?
I just don't understand. I'm trying to, but I don't.
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Being pregnant has brought my issues with my own mother bubbling to the surface
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Lynchian · 30/10/2008 21:44
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