DH's parents decided it was "too painful" to see us 5 years ago and we haven't seen them since. I never did get to the bottom of what exactly was so awful about us and TBH, suspect they couldn't define it either, but things had always been strained (in the 12 years beforehand) and they were pretty toxic people. Whilst I am sad that my Ds's don't know their grandparents, our marriage has been much happier without that source of stress. Dh took the view "good riddance to them." It was always me who patched things up when we fell out previously, if it had been left to DH and his parents, the break would have come much earlier.
My boys were 6 months and 2.6 y, so don't remember their GP's, but surely they will soon notice that their friends & cousins have 4 GP's. Can't believe DS1 hasn't asked already TBH. DH says just tell them IL's decided they didn't want to see us anymore, but I hate the thought that that is possible in a family. I have huge rows with my sister (and mum to lesser extent) but the idea that one day things could be so bad we'd never speak again is preposterous. We always sort it out and imo that is how it should be in a family. I really don't want to give them the message that if you fall out with a family member, you give up on them. What would you tell them?
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One day soon my DS's are going to ask why they only have 1 set of grandparents
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sameagain · 27/10/2008 20:31
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