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In a rut - Worth trying or moving on?????

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lauraloola · 26/10/2008 21:12

Advice needed please...

Dp and I have been together for 5 and a half years. Dd is 4 months old and we have been living together for 4 years.

Atm it is like we are just friends living in a house together who have a child together. He sleeps on the sofa every night, we dont really talk to each other, once dd is in bed he sits on the computer and I have the lap top on the sofa until we go to bed. We dont kiss or cuddle anymore and havent had sex in over a year - The night dd was conceived!

He is away for a week on a work course and I got quite upset when he left. Im not sure if it is just because I dont want to be on the house on my own though.

I have serious trust issues from a previous relationship and wont let him go out on his own. We have nearly split up several times but I beg him back. I also get really bad PMT and take it out on him every month. Poor bloke, not sure why he puts up with me!

So the question is - How do we get out of this rut? Is it worth trying? I would love another child in the next few years and to get married one day. He wants neither - He doesnt believe in marriage and is happy with one child.

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RubyShivers · 26/10/2008 21:14

well, i think the not having another child issue is the major one if it is really something you want

you can't compromise on that

has he vocalised why he doesn't want to have another child or marry?

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lauraloola · 26/10/2008 21:16

His mum is on her 3rd marriage so I think that has affected him. He just doesnt see the point.

TBH he didnt really want dd. He always said he never wanted kids. So I told him I was going to stop taking the pill to see what he did - He did nothing and carried on even though he knew there was a chance. It took 18 months to concieve dd and I had just been to the doctor about why nothing had happened - He knew about that and was supportive.