if he is invited to a corporate do , it is appropriate to take a business colleague ,no? 99 % of the things DH goes to are all about networking and building relationships and all things business. frankly, i think i would be bored to tears!
get a baby sitter and go out with your own friends, far better than sitting at home, feeling upset!!
maybe some wives go, maybe most don;t
why is it so important to you to go?
make sure though that you do get time to go out together as a couple
Do you want to be just armcandy? He most likely does not need that. It might seem fun to you, but it most likely isnt to him, and therein lies the difference. If you think beauty is an asset at a corporate event, I am not surprised you are left at home.
I have a friend that has to come to nearly all corporate events, she is a lawyer by profession, but is now playing the part of the corporate wife. She has to spend a fortune on clothes, hair dressers, the gym, and a lot of time spent on enhancing her culinary skills even further. Hand in hand with being at her husbands side, is that she will have to drop everything she is doing at moments notice, quick get in one of her many baby sitters, rush into a new and never seen before dress, rush her make up on and be out. OR, as is often expected when the wife gets involved, have to entertain at home at moments notice and get in an impressive menu, cook, get a babysitter to come and deal with the kids while she gets everything ready. I dont envy her for one moment.
It's rather obvious to me the reason you don't get to go is that you and his partner's wife don't get on. They want their business to work, so neither invite you two wives. Simple really. Sometimes business partnerships are more important to maintain as business relationships: social events are different.
That's good that you and your Dh go out together- if you didn't I'd be worried. But it all sounds like those two have decided that for the peace and the prosperity that brings, neither of you wives go to business events.
I think you'll have to get over this and move on. Unless you think your DH should be in another business. And indeed unless you think he's having a fling with his business partner.
It sounds to me that your DH is a really nice boss who gives his staff the opportunity to take part in social events and network as well as toil in the office all day! I used to work with someone who got invited to a client's fancy-dan-celeb party every year, and rather than take his wife he took whichever junior assistant had been working with him. Spect his wife was peeved but really it was much more appropriate for him to take a colleague who had put the work in.
From what you say it sounds like you don't actually want to spend time at these things anyway! Be careful what you wish for