And no im not having an affair. A short version of the story is my PIL are a little odd to say the least! shorty after me and DH got together, they moved to wales which is 5 hours away. They took 2 months to come and see DD1, their first GD and always moaned DH didnt call enough, we didnt go and see them enough! trying to do that trip with a LO was horrible. Anyways a few years back i went back to my religion and dh came too. His parent had a real issue but it got really nasty just after having DD2 (who they have NEVER seen) and they told us they didnt want anythign to do with us. The final straw for me was that they sent back our wedding photos and the DD'S photos !!!
well i got a nasty text from MIL yesterday saying how can he forget his family so easily!! He really had a rough time when they disowned us, but do i tell him about the text???!!
Tell him She's in the wrong. Blaming him for 'forgetting his family so easily' when she disowned him! Sounds like a manipulative cow to me. Not telling him, you risk it coming out in the future (sounds like she wouldn't hesitate to mention it) and may result in DH thinking less of you, and she'll have won by coming between you. If its nasty, she hasn't changed and your all best shot of her. You're his family now, stick together.
i will tell him then i really dont want to, but hate sercrets, we dont have them. No not worried at all, im a jehovahs witness. The ILs are very money focused and guess another issue was the lack of presnts at christmas and bdays.
I say don't tell him. Tell MIL that you refuse to act as a go-between and if she wants to communicate with him, she can do so directly.
Ask MIL what makes her think she should choose what religion her adult son should follow.
If you make it clear that they are welcome to visit you and the gc, and keep in touch with them by whatever means you prefer, then it will be the pils who are disowning you and not the other way round.
However, as the proud owner of an award for giving blood to the NHS, I take a dim view of the JW beliefs on the medical use of blood.
thanks elasticwoman, might think about that. Its hard as my PIL are very hard work and cause laods of trouble. That was one of the reasons we ending up running away and getting married with noone there
I understand about the blood issue, it comes up a lot and can understand why people worrying about it, I know I used to.