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Sezza13 Wed 08-Oct-08 00:12:09

I have recently split up with my partner of 5 years because he beat me up for saying I was lying over the most petty thing when I wasn't. My ds is six so as far as he is concerned he was/is his father. I seem to be really crap at picking fellas because my ds doesn't even see his real dad. Last time I spli up with my partner because of his anger he said he would get anger management, conselling etc but then never di and months later this happened. Now I am determined that I don't want to get back with him this time but my ds still wants to see him and my ex has been asking if he can still see my ds. I think that although it is bad for my ds now in the long run my ex will get a new girlfriend and then will inevitably let my ds down so is it not best to cut the cord now? But what if he was reliable and did make the effort, am I doing the right or wrong thing by my ds? I do know that I am now not going to go out with anybody else because I am rubbish at choosing men and my ds has obviously had enough heartbreak in his life already!! Infact, I bet you all think I am a terrible Mum when you read this, I'm not I have just made some bad choices. Thank-you for your thoughts

Flum Wed 08-Oct-08 00:13:44

Blimey - erm could he see him casually eg at group things.

blinks Wed 08-Oct-08 00:24:06

yeah- not on his own if he's a violent prick

YOU need the counselling to work out why you're picking losers

LemonyAle Wed 08-Oct-08 00:29:31

That's a bit harsh blinks hmm

Sezza, if DS wants contact with ExP, do you have a friend or family member who could take DS and chaperone him?

We've all made bad choices with men, so don't beat yourself up - it's great that you're starting to realise you might not be doing the best by yourself and DS when it comes to partners, and I hope you can build up your self-confidence. Good luck smile

blinks Wed 08-Oct-08 00:54:44

how's it harsh... i said exactly what you said.

any man who behaves like that is a prick and any woman who enters repeatedly into such relationships would do well to get some counselling.

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