Dp always seemed to get a bit distant when I had a drink. I am very sociable, but not flirty. I just like looking inside people's heads, and I mostly speak to women because I feel more comfortable with them.
Last month on holiday he took a million pictures and videos of me whilst drunk. His tone on the videos was very sneering. He dumped me on holiday because we had a disagreement about how voluble I am when I am drunk, even though I am not offensive or rude. Just loud.
At a party last week, I said something to a couple which caused a row between them. It was purely unintentional, and the cause of the row was because the man misunderstood me, not because I had said something wrong.
DP said I have a really nasty streak when I'm drunk. I do not. At all. I am loud and very silly with my girlfriends when drunk, but I would never hurt anyone's feelings on purpose, ever. Drunk or sober.
I cried because I really couldn't believe he would say that about me when he KNOWS it's not true. Trying to defend myself, he lost his temper and told me to get out of his house, simply because I wouldn't agree with his pov. I stomped home and refused to get in his car. We split up.
Anyway, afterwards, he was texting me and saying he knew I was lovely and I didn't have a nasty streak at all. But he is sick of me never having any free time, and always having to consider him last because I have 6 kids to consider first. Then he said I really didn't deserve someone as nasty as him and at least if we split up he wouldn't be making me unhappy anymore.
Is it just me, or does anyone else hear alarm bells? He is still calling and texting me every day, and doesn't seem to want to split up at all. I am entirely confused, because he doesn't ask to get back together either. He just says "why would you want to be with someone like me?"
I don't know where to go from here at all, so would appreciate your help please, ladies.
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