Is you dp, dh,dw your soulmate or a good fit?

[twinsetandpearls]

Just asking as dp and I are reaching a crossroads which is going to be make or break.

It was suggested on here the other week that it is unrealistic to look for a soulmate.

I have a man who is good to me, (usually but that is for another thread) , adores me and dd ( she is not his), works hard in and out of the home, would never cheat or act immorally, I fancy the pants of him and him me and we have things in common ( although perhaps more differences) Should that be enough or would you walk away from that for a soulmate?

[zippitippitoes]

blimey he sounds like he is a soulmate to me what more could you want

[MrsMattie]

He's my best friend. Dunno about soul mate. What does that really mean?

[zippitippitoes]

i thought exp was my soulmate but clearly i was mistaken so i dont think you can know

what are the qualities of a soulmate

[BitOfFun]

Sounds good to me - what more do you want? If you fancy each other, like each other and respect each other, doesn't that make you soulmates anyway?

[deanychip]

have you got a soulmate in mind?
i assume from your post that you may have or will be looking for one?

[Lizzylou]

I think DH is my soulmate, I don't really know how you'd define soulmate tbh.
I love him wholeheartedly, fancy the ass off him, he is my best friend and I want to spend the rest of my life with him, I think that's enough

I'd say your DP sounds great, why the hesitancy?

[twinsetandpearls]

MrsMattie I dont know, I suspect he loves me more than I love him. I just feel there is a connection missing somewhere.

[joshhollowayspieceofass]

If he's lovely and you still fancy him, I'd say you pretty much hit the jackpot.

I don't know if DH is my soulmate - what's that supposed to mean, that you "complete" each other. Well, DH and I don't do that, but we do massively compliment each other, and often I wonder at a scarier life where our paths didn't cross, and I would not be so lucky to be with such a lovely man.

I think you will have to elaborate on what your hesitancy is if you're to get anything out of this thread

[onlyjoking9329]

so who do you think is your soulmate TSAP?
i married my soulmate.

[EdwardCullenCanHaveMySoul]

Dh is not what I would call a soulmate, he's a fair fit (would have said great fir but things haven't been so easy of late - sounds like a similar situation to the op).
Sometimes it makes me sad when I think there may be my soulmate wandering around out there looking for me!
However, I'm not going to give up the good guy I have to go and look for him - possibly because I'm too scared, possibly because it wouldn't be the right thing for me to do.

[twinsetandpearls]

I have no one in mind.

Lizzylou he is a good man although lately he has had some anger issues and has been hard work. But I know I am not easy to live with either.

I suppose we lack shared ideals and as much as we love each other we frustrate each other.

[EdwardCullenCanHaveMySoul]

He is not a 'great fir' I meant of course fit !!

[Anna8888]

My DP is my best friend and soulmate, yes.

[joshhollowayspieceofass]

Ok, x-posts. If you're feeling like that, then I think there is something to examine here. And I'm sorry you are having a wobble - it must be quite scary.

I remember that feeling with some x partners, before I got married. You realise they are in it more than you, and that can be a terrible turn off. But in those instances, I couldn't really have said I still fancied the pants of them - is this really true? How long have you been together?

[expatinscotland]

I don't believe in soulmates at all.

[twinsetandpearls]

I have had a relationship with someone that I considered a soulmate and we seemed closer that dp and I do, but I messed that one up.

[zippitippitoes]

lack shared ideals

what in a n philosophical if we could mend the world way?

you would vote differently?

[onlyjoking9329]

i suspect you're thinking your DH isn't your soulmate if you are questioning it.

[Peachy]

soulmate

pita quite often, but deffo soulmate

[expatinscotland]

no, i never questioned whether or not someone was my soulmate because i never believed in the concept.

[twinsetandpearls]

Yes I do fancy the pants of him and we usually have fantastic sex, at the moment in separate beds while we work out our future.

The things that are not right for me are all very abstract other than at the moment his eternal grumpiness which he is trying to address.

Expat I am wondering if I agree with you and I should stick with what i have rather than aiming for an ideal that does not exist.

[thesockmonsterofdoom]

deffo soulmate, bestfriend, sexiest man in the world and the only prson I want to spend all my time with. Miss him of we are apart for more than 1 day, think I was destined to meet him.

[motherinferior]

I very definitely don't believe in soulmates.

My partner is a nice man. We have made a good life together. He respects me. On balance, most of the time, I feel he's worth the effort.

[JodieG1]

That sounds good to me. Why do you think he isn't your soulmate? I believe in soulmates.