Hi
I posted on MN on Lone parents at christmas and I got a lot of supportive comments some of which have helped me to see how things really are between me and ex. I'm not sure how to do a link as I don't really post that often so to summerise briefly. Last year the day after mothers day I caught my then dp having a 'fling' with a 16 yr old schoolgirl (he's now 28) The lies and the way he treated me was unbelievable. I threw him out and he went to live with his mum. Since then he has kept me dangling, finishing me then coming round, wanting sex then he would dissapear. He dissapeared at christmas then went to a new years party with this 16 yr old leaving me on my own. Since then his cars been seen round hers. He snubbed me and the kids on his birthday last week and well the list is endless. He has kept saying he 'wants to take it slowly' but he never stays, never got me a valentines card, etc.
Anyway I've been getting really fed up with the whole situation and although I love him I've decided as best as i can to try and move on. I've got a bunch of really good mates that I've been getting close too since last year and i've started going out on a saturday night with them when I'm off and when he has the kids at his. Last sat I did this. I went out, I did my hair, bought a jacket and for once I felt really good about myself. I had a snog in a club i went to and i felt myself again, not just plain old Janna mum of 2 slightly overweight. I also bought myself a new phone and didn't tell him partly because i didn't want to hurt his feelings as he bought me my other one and partly because I thought well why should I tell him. To cut along story short he's found out about the snog and the phone and phoned me tonight and wiped the floor with me. He told me 'if I've got so much money to spend on a monthly contract then I could pay the mortgage, council tax, tv liscence etc all myself plus pay 4 the kids too as he had had it with me. He's always promised in the past to pay this even tho he feels 'he could never come home' although I have asked him many times.
I can't understand exactly what he wants from me. He refuses point blank to be a proper family yet he comes round for a kiss and a cuddle when it suits. I then find out little bits of info linking him and her still and more lies. When I try and get on with life its wrong in his eyes. I've also been getting quite close to a lad I work with. Nothings happened but again he makes me feel like I'm somebody which is more than ex has done for the past year.
Thanks for reading don't expect anyone to reply really i just needed to sound off
Thanks again.
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Really fed up with exdp
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Janna · 02/03/2005 01:14
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